[dragonfly1234]

Why adopt after having bio children?

[arkansas parent]

It's simple I wanted another child. I can't have anymore due to "secondary infertility". I have always wanted to adopt but my husband was scared. After I showed him all the research I done he agreed it was the best thing to do.

[DebCsMom]

I agree, we have unexplained secondary infertility & still wanted more children. For us to add to our family we adopted. We wanted 6 children. After only being able to have 2 biologically, adoption was the only way to make that dream happen.

Deb

[rsbg]

I've always wanted to adopt. We have two bios, but I have never felt my family was complete. I had a hysterectomy almost 2 years ago, but even if I hadn't we would probably still have tried to adopt.

[bajj]

I don't have bios, but honestly, like I told you Michelle, why not?

I had always planned on adopting, even if I had had bios.

[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

DH has 2 children from his first marriage. Quite simply, he adopted because we would not still be together otherwise. I could not have lived being a step-mother alone. I would rather have been alone.

[dragonfly1234]

Dh and I had talked about adoption before we were married. Our oldest son is bio and we felt that our family was not complete yet. Secondary infertility moved up our plans for adoption sooner than later. I love my 2 but wouldn't mind adding to the family again.

[bajj]

You know you're in my prayers, Michelle. I know what it's like, I think we're in similar situations. I have to constantly remind myself, everything in His timing and in His plan.

[mrsred]

Bio child was a big surprise. see, from the time I was 20 till I was 34 I had blocked tubes, so conception was impossible. At 34 I had a procedure to open tubes, but still did not gt pregnant. Even with fertility pills, and artificial insemination, we could not concieve. After 2 years we gave up, accepting that we would not have children. Imagine my surprise when I discovered I was pregnant three years later! DS was born two months after my fortieth birthday. But it truly was a fluke, and we never concieved again.
So, even though we could accept being childless, we could not accept having an only child. We began the adoption process when he was eight. We had decided when he was three that we would adopt, but we wanted to adopt an older child, yet still keep him as the oldest. Now he has a sister five months younger, and a brother 3 years younger. I asked him once if he had any regrets. It has not been easy, especially since these kids came with a lot of emotional baggage. He said "Mom, I wasn't just an only child, I was a lonely child." he loves his brother and sister to the moon and back.