[tawny63]

We adopted our son in August 2007. Our agency knew we would pay up to $1000 of medical bills for the birth mother. We finalized our adoption in November of 2007, and had already paid medical bills totaling $830. Just yesterday, I got an email from birthmom letting me know she found more bills (didn't say a price) and has mailed them to me.

What would you do???? I was shocked that she would still have bills out there for one, but also that after a year (which wasn't completely smooth) she would feel comfortable sending us more bills. By the time she sent the first stack of bills, I had to pay 3 collection agencies their fees, in addition to the medical billing. I'm frustrated and not sure what to tell her.

As far as our open adoption, it's been rough and she's been pretty immature about issues. She bought our son a present for his birthday that she knew he already had...she writes emails addressed to our son stating how much she loves him and it was a mistake to give him up, even though she likes us as parents...she has already been married to a different man and is now trying to get pregnant. We redirect her as much as possible to remind her why she chose us, why she chose adoption, and also let her know what we are doing and send her pictures.

[manni28]

I would speak to the agency about the bill, and you also might want to post this thread under "general adoptive parents" for more advice.