[SadMomma]

Queen i sent you a PM. Hope it helps, PM me back if you need some names.

[Beautyqueen616]

Well we are finally able to sit down and talk with bfamily tomorrow!! My DH talked to the bgrandpa yesterday and he said they are "adamant" that we adopt the baby. They are relieved that someone they know wants the baby, C. was having a hard time thinking about giving the baby to someone she did not know. So keep your fingers crossed and say a prayer.

[kimmom]

Well........How did it go? I hope that it went really well, keep us posted.

[Beautyqueen616]

Its not going. They never showed up to our meeting Friday night, never called. We left several messages and didnt get a return call. I got ahold of her mom last night and she was screaming in the background (s answered) about not wanting to talk to me. She got on the phone and fed me a bunch of bs. Now they dont know what they are doin because S has said there may be other fathers after naming this one guy. I just wont go through 6 months of not knowing when I have alot of other things to focus on that will make other adoptions happen in the future (finishing school, dh getting masters, I work 2 jobs) I told her mom to just keep us posted and closer to when the baby is due we will talk more. I told her she must not understand what this meant to us and that we would have to come up with $1500 to retain a lawyer and stuff and she just said "oh" but I told her we would not do that until we knew for sure what they wanted. So for now the adoption is a no go.

[kimmom]

I am so sorry to hear that!!! I think that you are totally right in going on with your life and trying to get yourself to the point that you will feel good about actively seeking a child. It is really kind of you to leave the option open for the emom and her family. It may work out, but that crazy family obviously doesnt respect eachother or you and your family, so I applaud you for not telling them where they could go. The best I can do is hope that you are at the point that you want to be at soon, and will be able to grow your family. Keep us up on any changes in your situation.

Kim

PS ((((hugs)))

[laurie2275]

Just read your story. How are things going? Have you been able to talk to the family? I hope that you are able to work this out. I am praying for you!!! I know that the 13 yr old (and parents it seems) are not capable of raising this child. How was the 13 yr old able to go out and sleep with multiple men/boys? YUCK!! I really hope this works out for you. Seems like in the best interest of the child.

[Beautyqueen616]

Her parents are just being stupid so right now we are doing nothing and we will do nothing until the baby is here. How she was able to go out and sleep with multiple people is her parents give her no attention and never have, shes been allowed to run since she was a toddler. I dont think its "yuck" as you said. Ive known her since she was 6 years old, she made a mistake as did her parents. Everyone makes mistakes.