[Foxymama]

Foster/Adoption worked for us. We adopted a sibling group of three sisters age 3, 5, and 6. We also adopted our son, whom we have had since birth. We didn't pay a cent, we continue to get their subsidies, and they get Medicaid. It's just something to think about.

[mrsred]

I just want to add that more and more babies are being placed through foster adoption. Research carefully and know your risks, but sure is the most economical way to adopt. Besides, it feels so good to know you have saved a child from a life of impermanence, moving from one foster family to another.

[mully4235]

Is the risk worth it though? You foster a child and would love to adopt him/her only to find out that the birthmother gets her back or someone else adopts before you. That's what happened to someone I know.

[mrsred]

Originally Posted by mully4235

Is the risk worth it though? You foster a child and would love to adopt him/her only to find out that the birthmother gets her back or someone else adopts before you. That's what happened to someone I know.

Yes, it's worth it. Whether the child stays with you, goes back to birth parents or is adopted by someone else it is worth it. Because you have made a difference in a child's life. This isn't about us, it is about them.
So for a day, a month, a year, a lifetime... your love will always be there, they will always know what it is like to be safe and loved.

[jigger]

We did foster/adopt and our only costs were $1400 for the lawyer. In fact, the state paid us while we were in the fostering phase and my company reimbursed us the $1400 for lawyer fees. Our son's adoption was free! There are lots of things to think about before going this route though. Please take a look at the Foster/Adopt thread on this site. . .

[SOSDJJD]

My wife and I live in Vegas and are in the process of wrapping up an adoption for our little girl. We went through the Foster to adopt program here in clark county. We will end up having to pay 20$ out of pocket for the adoption. We are so excited. I will give a word of warning, not every foster to adopt ends up like ours did. Also if your going into the foster/ adopt program and want a 2 year old girl that where's a size ten and can tap dance and knows all the words to my way.... then this is the wrong program for you. Kids come in all different shapes, sizes, needs and colors. Be open if you go into this program.

[infoster]

I thought I might repond to the foster adopt information given. Foster to adopt does not always mean the child is adoptable. Most of the time you will have these children for only a few days and/or a few months to just give them back to the bio parents or bio family members. Sometimes you will have them for up to a year or more and then the judge decides to give the bio parents or family members another chance to be parents. I have seen some adoptions through foster care and they happened to wonderful people who waited a long time, but I have also seen children come and go. So if you are not prepared to loose these children after becoming so attached then maybe foster care isn't the route you want to go to adopt. Foster babies/children are in the foster care system for a reason. The ultimate goal is to reunify them with their bio families.

[momofbgtwins]

Yes there is always a risk a foster child could end up going back to their birth parents. But there is also a risk when you adopt domestically that the parents change their minds and then you end up starting over. We are adopting through the foster care system. Right from the very start they knew we wanted to adopt(fos/adopt). They would only place children in our home that were adoptable. Yes there is still that chance they could have gone back to their birth parents, but they didn't. We now have two very active twins who are almost 14 months and their adoption will be finalized next month. We also know a lot of others who have adopted through foster care. Either way you decide to go you take a chance. Life's a chance

And for those of you that say you cannot get a baby through fos/adopt that is not true. Sometimes you need to wait a while, but they place babies all the time. My friend adopted two little girls at different times and they got them both when they were 2 months old. And our Babies were only 11 days old when we picked them up at the hospital.

[carolynm]

I would double check with your credit bureau - bankruptcies are supposed to be removed from your credit report after 6-7 years if it is your first - if it wasn't your first, then that may be why you are hooped - they take 14 years to come off.

Carolyn