[mamae]

We want to plan for an adoption shower/welcome party for our girls ages 10,5 and 13 who we hope will come home before Christmas (from an Eastern European country)

We wonder if others have done that, and if so, what is the appropriate way to word the invitation.

Also, another question... When having a baby shower, people do registry. We are not doing it, but wonder if it would be rude to make a note on the low bottom of the invitation (with small letters) saying something like: K uses clothes size 12 and shoes size 8. J uses clothes size...

At the same time we do not want to force people into giving gifts to the girls, if they do give it, I would love it to be clothes... We will need to provide them with 2 full wardrobes from scratches... And I'd rather they got clothes than toys, etc...

What do you think?

PS: we plan on having it at our church, a couple of weeks after our girls come home

[momofMikhail]

I had a baby shower when we were in the process of adopting our ds. I did register at stores but also had the invitations printed with no clothes under 12 months at the bottom. I don't think that is tacky at all. I know if I was purchasing the outfits I would want to know that they were going to be able to fit. I would also do an adotion annoucement and shower invitation all in one. I know Tiny Prints has some adorable annoucements that you can word yourself to include the shower.

[greenmama]

So long as someone ELSE is throwing the shower (NOT YOU) it is ok to have a card enclosed with the girls sizes, etc. It shouldn't be printed right on the invitations. And no shower should ever be thrown by the parents themselves...a friend or acquaintance should do it.

[Shelly77]

We are adopting a 9 year old and a close friend is throwing a "welcome home" party. This seems to be a good idea rather than a shower when the kids are older. I'm not sure how she plans on doing invites but the wording will definitely be "welcome home"

[joskimo]

Our ~soon-to-be~ son will be with us sometime this winter around the holidays and I thought we'd throw a party as opposed to a shower since he'll be 7, so he can meet people in our life. We did have a shower when we adopted our daughter, but she was a new born, I keep thinking an older kiddo might be insulted with the term shower.