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01-02-2009, 10:30 AM
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Beginning adoption process...
I'm in the very beginning stages of adopting an older child (from 8 to 11 years old). I've done a lot of research and found a lot of articles online, but I was wondering if anyone had any advice on books or journals or magazines to read? I know that it takes more than a lot of book knowledge to raise a child....but a little knowledge can never hurt.
Thanks :-) 
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01-02-2009, 10:50 AM
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My favorite adoption prep book is Greg Keck's Adopting the Hurt Child.
I'd also recommend researching as much as possible on attachment and bonding, attachment parenting, and attachment disorder. Good luck on your journey
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01-02-2009, 02:55 PM
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I was able to find it at Barnes & Noble and it looks like it has a lot of good information. Thanks for the tip :-)
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01-04-2009, 09:06 AM
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My absolute favorite is "Three Little Words" by Ashley Rhodes-Courter. I have bought 16 copies of it so far because I am pressuring our friends and family to read it. It is an autobiography written by a 25-year old woman who was taken into custody by social services when she was 5 and adopted when she was 11. This story shows how she felt being bounced through foster care and clarifies why she gave her adoptive parents a hard time. Other good resources are "Beyond Consequences" by Forbes and Post, and "Primal Wound", but I don't know that author. We also felt that "Adoption:Stories of Lives Transformed" by Dixie Davis, was definitely worth the time to balance out the negative stories you often hear in online posts and support groups.
Good luck!!!
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 Adopted daughter, 9, placed from foster care at birth Bio son, 11 Adopted daughter, 12, placed last November and finalized June 16th!! Woot woot! Bio son, 14 Adopted daughter, 19, placed from foster care at 14
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01-04-2009, 04:55 PM
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"Mile High" I just finished the book. I agree about "Three Little Words", it says, perfectly, what an older child feels during the adoption process and why we deal with the issues we do when attempting to bond with an older child. Thanks for recommending it. There's one more book I highly recommend that was written by a post-adoption resource group in our area. It's called "Wasn't Love Supposed to be Enough". I highly recommend it.
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01-05-2009, 10:15 AM
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Do you know who wrote "Mile High"?
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01-08-2009, 04:40 PM
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The greatest books have been:
Books on attachment/seperation/older child adoption by Claudia Jewett & a book called "The Limits of Hope".
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About Me: Oct 14 08- TX DPFS Orientation Nov 8- Dec 20- PRIDE Class Jan 6 09- Finger Prints Jan 31- Drug Handling Class March 11- Home Eval Meeting April 1- CW admmits to having lost file, having then found file, and having turned it in today. April 1- Behavior intervention class April 2- Homestudy Call April 7- Final Homestudy Meeting May 1- Homestudy sumbitted to state of TX June 4- APPROVED! July 2nd-Submitted interest in R (7) July 7- Recieved HESGH Aug 12-RAS (rep'ed by my old PRIDE trainer) Aug 13- Selected to be Mom to R (7 yr old girl!) Aug 18-Read File (both boxes full!) Aug 20- start pre-placement communication Aug 28- no visit/come home  Oct 20 09- Finalize! 
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03-09-2009, 12:27 PM
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I just finished reading Our Own by Trish Maskew. It was excellent. I highly recommend it.
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06/08 - First appointment with private adoption agency 10/08 - Completed foster parent/pre-adoption classes 02/09 - Switched agencies and submitted adoption application with DHS 05/09 - Home study approved and submitted for several waiting children 06/09 - Opened home to foster care placements 06/09 - Chosen to go to committee for a sibling group of four 08/09 - Not chosen at committee 09/09 - Passed on sibling group of 2 Happy Daycare Provider to 7 children: E age 7, Big C age 6, A age 6, Little C age 3, B age 2, CJ age 1 and Baby E 10 mon Happy foster mom to 1 baby: Frank the Tank, age 8 mon (placed 6/17/09) 
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