[chelle_bub]

We inquired about teenage siblings. Agency told us that we were the #1 choice for this sibling group and would start visits soon.
Next contact we had with the agency we went in to talk to a couple sw'ers. They informed us that the foster parents have now said that they want to adopt the children after the foster parents had repeatedly said no to adopting them.
The children have been with them for a year and a half. I do believe that the foster care parents should have first placement but since they said no so many times it makes me wonder why after a year and a half they would change.
The agency said that the foster parents did not know about our interest when they called in to say that they wanting to possibly adopt.
The agency had a meeting and decided to give the foster family 2 weeks after school is out to decide for sure.
We want what is best for the children and know that God has his plan for these children and our family. But my heart aches because I feel the kids would do great in our home and I have no questions about if we want to adopt them or not. The foster family is still unsure.
Well I will close now. Praying for the best for the kids and for a speedy decision so the unknown will be known.

[Linny]

I've seen this happen; and we've personally had this happen to us as well. I have no idea why foster parents say 'no', then 'yes'......and sometimes I have to wonder. Sometimes I fear it's the 'I don't want them, but I sure as heck won't let YOU have 'em', kind of thinking...which is sad, indeed.
But, I've also known in one of our cases, the foster parents said 'no', for months, then said 'yes' once they knew we were in the picture. The agency told them they had had their chance and the children came to us.
(Sadly, years later, we ended up in a nightmare with these kids....)
Still, God will have a plan and if these kids are meant to be, they will. I would strongly suspect too, that the agency has been interviewing the kids as well and their input would have a lot of weight as to where they want to be.
Good luck to you in finding your children. These may not be 'the ones'....but certainly, if you're willing to adopt teens-----your wait will not be long.

Sincerely,

Linny

[akcskye]

I second what Linny has said.

I don't know why some foster parents say no, then say yes...but it's a decision I respect IF it's been made out of the best interests of the children.

Perhaps the foster family has other children there who are going to RU with their families and now they'll have room? Who knows.

I pray that God will do what is best for the children. I hope that is coming to live with you, but again, like Linny said, if you're open to teens, your wait won't be long.

(((HUGS)))

[chelle_bub]

We have adopted a sibling group of 5 and have 2 bio daughters. We feel very blessed already. We do have a heart to adopt a teen. I am sure they could find us one very quickly. My husband and I were talking last night and he said he doesn't want to inquire about any other children until thier adoption is final just in case something doesn't go we still want to be available to them.