adoption.com

adoption.com

 
JOIN 800,000+ MEMBERS JOINJOIN Cancel
image






Adoption Forums®

Members List Photos Events Local Adoption Support Search Arcade Reviews Membership Upgrade
Welcome to the Forums.
If this is your first visit, be sure to check out the FAQ. You may have to register before you can post or search: click here to proceed. To start viewing messages, select a forum below that you would like to view or click View All of Todays Posts.
Forum Categories

Reply
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread Display Modes
  #1  
Old 09-13-2006, 02:15 PM
becsaon becsaon is offline
Junior Member
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 2
Total Points: 1,286.95
Donate
Rad

My Daughter shows the signs of rad sometimes and sometimes she doesn't. I know it is hard to diagnois.
The social workers never even mentioned it as a possiblity. She has only been with us for five months. I hope as time goes on it will get better. Once again I am so glad to have found this forum.
Reply With Quote
Adoption Information
Looking to Adopt?
New Jersey
Click here to visit Douglas M. Pine, LLC
Douglas Pine represents adoptive families in every county throughout New Jersey. Mr Pine earned his reputation by providing personal attention to every adoption.
Douglas M. Pine, LLC
(973) 748-8887   Fax (973) 748-3999

  #2  
Old 09-13-2006, 03:55 PM
lucyjoy's Avatar
lucyjoy lucyjoy is offline
Retired mother

Join Date: Oct 2002
Posts: 8,206
Total Points: 3,472,590,884,904.36
Donate
Well, for starters it's not an all or nothing thing. Attachment is a continuum and people fall at various places. It's quite likely your child has attachment issues even if she's not RAD. A qualified attachment therapist could assess this.

I would recommend getting Nancy Thomas DVD's to look at to help set up a parenting situation that would help facilitate healthy attachment. This will help but does not replace the need for therapy.
Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 10-09-2006, 07:33 PM
2manyks's Avatar
2manyks 2manyks is offline
Senior Member
Join Date: Aug 2006
Posts: 965
Total Points: 110,408.27
Donate
i just got back from a rad conference. you need to read, read, read. rad is hard to diagnose and it is not an all or nothing. if they have some symptoms then they have some attachment problems. get a good attachment therapist and do all you can to heal your child. believe me, typical parenting doesnt help with these kids, so get some professional help!
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 10-10-2006, 11:38 AM
Linny's Avatar
Linny Linny is offline
Momma many times over
Join Date: Jun 2002
Posts: 5,001
Total Points: 180,793.50
Donate
Quote:
...This will help but does not replace the need for therapy.--Lucy

Usually, only a qualified attachment therapist can very accurately diagnose an attachment disorder or RAD. It is very common for RAD children to appear 'normal' in attachment at various times. They learn to acclimate to the situation at hand, if they don't feel pressed to attach at all. This is why some RAD children can seem 'quite lovely and well-behaved' while in school, but can literally be tearing the doors from the hinges and raging at home'. It's also why some people 'on the outside' have a hard time realizing that a particular child actually is a horror to live with.

Find an attachment therapist. As time goes on, if s/he has real attachment issues, 'they' will---very often--NOT get better on their own. I would highly recommend an excellent website for resources and a very good forum of other parents of attachment disorders and RAD. This is the Attachment Disorder Support Group homepage:

Attachment Disorder Support Group

This is a vast and extremely helpful website for anyone with these disorders.

Good luck....

Sincerely,

Linny
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 10-10-2006, 08:16 PM
swanzie swanzie is offline
Senior Member
Join Date: Mar 2006
Posts: 276
Total Points: 5,376.03
Donate
I also have to disagree with lucyjoy. Rad is not all or nothing. It varies from day to day - from minute to minute - from situation to situation. It all depends on how the situation is making the child feel...and if the child is feeling something than that is most likely when the are going to act out.
Rad has a HUGE scale. While most foster children have attachment issues - all are not RAD. My fkids have been diagnosed with mild rad...and let me tell you by talking with other parents there is a HUGE difference from being mild rad to severly rad..no two kids are the same...no two experiences are the same - so how they react can be so different. It also has a lot to do with the makeup and personality of the child and if they want to heal.
The sw are definately going to stay away from this topic - this I have learned from experience. Until I got the official diagnosis during the TPR trial - they all looked at me like I was crazy when I would tell them about something that happened. Now I get some respect - and it seems like all of a sudden they are very knowlegeable about this...it just took somebody with initials after their name to say it instead of me. We are finally on the way to healing...easier said than done - and some strange things really can set this attachment process back a year - but we are struggling along and getting there.
The best advice I can give you is to read everything you can - go to the ADSG.org web site - follow your instincts and get a good Attachment therapist. Other types of therapy just tends to play into the children learning how to get better at maniuplation and triagulation. IT doesn't work...

Good luck!!
__________________
Swanzie
---------------------
FS - 13 Placed 6/4/05 - TPR 5/5/06
FD - 7 placed 6/4/05 - TPR 5/5/06
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 10-10-2006, 08:21 PM
lucyjoy's Avatar
lucyjoy lucyjoy is offline
Retired mother

Join Date: Oct 2002
Posts: 8,206
Total Points: 3,472,590,884,904.36
Donate
Not sure how you interpreted my post but I did not say RAD was all or nothing. I said attachment is on a continuum.

Also, while a child may not act out their feelings everyday, RAD doesn't come and go. Yes, children react differently according to their make up, thier interest in healing, and how severely they are affected by their early life circumstances. Not sure what you're disagreeing with.
__________________
Life without hope is walking death
Reply With Quote
Reply

« Previous Thread | Next Thread »

Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

vB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

Points Per Thread View: 1.00
Points Per Thread: 15.00
Points Per Reply: 5.00


All times are GMT -7. The time now is 10:55 PM.