[CubanaYogini]

We found out yesterday that the expectant mom with whom we have been matched for months has been scamming us. She is using multiple attorneys and is matched with multiple couples, all of whom have been paying her "expenses." So here we have been all excited about an AA baby girl whose due date is Aug. 20, who would be a little sister to our AA son.

Our (now ex) e-mom is definitely pregnant with a little girl. I traveled to meet her in OK City on May 15 (at great expense), accompanied her to an OB appt., and saw an ultrasound. I got my heart completely wrapped around that little girl too.

We know of another couple (an AA couple who are from the New York area) who visited with her on the 19th and 20th of this month and went with her to a different OB than the one that I took her to. I wonder if they know that they are being scammed.

Her mother--who is in on the scam--has been with her during attorney and couple meetings. There is also a boyfriend (the baby's father?) who may or may not be in on the scam.

I was receiving messages from her just this morning (she got busted yesterday) begging me to adopt the baby. I wonder if the other couples involved are also getting messages, or if they even know that she is a fraud.

My feeling from conversations that I had with her after she was busted (she claims that she was confused about who to give the baby to and didn't want to hurt any of the couples' feelings LOL) is that she is planning to parent and is using the pregnancy to defraud couples now and will use the baby after the birth to try to extort more money from couples.

I can't believe that there are people like this out there who would prey on couples like us who are working with everything we have to build a family. I am beyond hurt and betrayed. I am mourning the loss of my baby girl.

[sparkle1908]

I am so sorry that you (and the other couples) are going through this..I am also sorry that the baby has a mom who is already "using" her for financial gain...is there any legal action that you can take against the emom as well as her mother who is in on it?

Personally I think you should try to make sure the other couples are aware of what is going on (if they haven't already found out) so that they can take measures to protect themselves from further pain...

Some people have no morals unfortunately...truly sad for all parties involved!!

You are all in my thoughts/prayers...

[kelceesmom]

I am sorry that this is happening to you. It is sad that there are people who do this. I don't know how someone can play with someone else's emotions like this.

[loveajax]

I am so sorry to hear this. I can never understand how someone could do something as rotten as this. Hang in there!

[BethanyB]

Did the police bust her or did she just come out and tell you this? If the police busted her, how did you come about knowing about this and is there a way you can get the word out about her?

[CubanaYogini]

One of the attorneys that matched her with another couple got suspicious about something she said, did some searching around, and discovered our attorney and our match. That's how she got "busted."

I've got her listed on the scammer sites. I'd like to press charges, but DH is fighting me on this. He feels that her going to jail might hurt the baby.

[taz99]

oh, I'm so sorry that this happened to you. how absolutely heartbreaking for you and your family and the other families involved.