[Ross Family]

My husband and I are a bi-racial couple. My husband is black and I am white. We are in our mid 20s and are a military family.

We have discovered that having a child on our own at this time would be impossible due to the costs of infertility procedures.

I was curious to know if our age and races would have any bearing on being considered more quickly for a bi-racial adoption?

[mary johnson]

same here...biracial couple. I thought things would fly though fast. Had one failed adoption - then signed up with an agency and have been waitng for one year. Lots of bite - but no action. You would think we'd be a perfect couple for bi-racial children, which we are, but I thought we had a bonus on our side, but we don't. Are you open to adopting a full African American child? That would make you chances a lot easier and faster. Good luck to you both...we should start a club!! *smiles

[DotHeff]

I'm not trying to be picky, but aren't all adoptive parents the "perfect" parents for their children- regardless of race? I think in such an emotionally charged situation such as adoption it is vital that we be aware of the power of language and its ability to subtly create biases in transracial vs. same-race adoptions.

Much luck and blessings to you on your adoption journey! There is a posting on www.adoptionsituations.com and then forum situations for an agency looking for interracial and aa couples.

-Dot

[Linny]

Just a note about the postings:


Please be careful when responding to these postings for available children. Many of the postings come from 'facilitators' or networkers and not from agencies.
While this may not pose a problem for some, if facilitation is illegal in your particular state, it will be. Also, there are many facilitators that are not reputable----as there are some that are.
I, personally have contacted more than one of the situations that have been posted in the past. The 'facilitator' (as I found out later....but not initially......I just assumed!)........was untruthful about a situation. On another occasion, the fees charged by the service were soooo high, it was absolutely ridiculous.

There are some services such as this that ARE very good......but you must be very, very careful and know who you are dealing with. (I've found this out from experience....and thank God we've not lost money to any of them.)

Stay away from agencies or facilitators that charge money up front or ask for money 'at match'....there ARE those that do not do this until placement is done and the child can legally be yours.

Hang in there.........


Sincerely,

Linny

[marysblessings]

I understand what you are saying about being a family who matches many potential birthmom's criteria.
Adoption is an unusual thing. We are not as universal, since we have several children. However, our son came home to us after a seven month wait; our daughter was in our home after a three month wait. It depends on the resources, I think, such as states involved, budget amounts, what route a person takes (agency vs. attorneys vs. facilitators), and of course, criteria of the first Mom and Dad.

Blessings,
Mary