[Sarkin]

PRAISE THE LORD!!!!!!!! I called my b-mom last night and we talked for over an hour. She was so happy to hear from me. We obviously talked a lot about my life as she wondered how it had been, if I had a good life and was treated o.k. It sounds like she had a rough upbringing and wants to explain a lot of things to me so she is writing me a lenghty letter. I just don't see the past mattering to me. My concern is who she is today not who she was 20-30 years ago. I just can't believe that it went so well. I had absolutely prepared for the worse so this is an absolute joy. The most ironic part is that she lives about one hour from where we are going on vacation in 2 months. My children are her first grandkids and how lucky for them to have another grandma! I am once again going to give tons of credit to Kinsolving Investigations for finding my b-mom and they did it in 6 days. Thanks to all of you have offered advice, support and prayers.

God Bless!!!!!

[sadboo2]

Congrats... I like to hear about these stories... I think they are great and inspiring.. I havent had that lucky moment yet with my bmom.. but i know i will.. and again congrats...

Christi

[miss1]

I am so happy for you! I have been searching off and on for at least 10 years. I hope I am making some progress now, because I have a search angel. She is familiar with some other adoptions in my area. How did you find her? Have you seen any pictures yet? Best of luck to you and her.

[Sarkin]

I hired a privated investigator, kinsolving investigation, they were expensive but totally worth it. As I said before, they found her in six days. I don't have any photos of her yet, but hope to soon. Thanks. Good luck on your search.

[VirginiaStegall]

I do agree, Praise God, Praise God. He is so faithful!
I read so many sad stories of individuals who have been searching for years. I love to read these successful stories.
Keep us informed.
If my daughter finds me, I hope she will be as happy as you and I will not be a dissappoint to her.

I'm so glad it's going well for you!!!

[KilleDowns]

Congrats! Enjoy this new wonderful relationship in your life!

[sadboo2]

im really happy that you found your bmom.. and hopefully ill find mine... someday... before its too late..

[dl]

What wonderful news - I'm really happy for you! Did you just call her or did someone else initially contact her and let her know you were going to call. Could you tell us a little about the call as far as what you said to each other when the conversation first started. Not being nosy but it might give the rest of us some guidance. Thanks & Best of Luck. Be sure to post and let us know how the visit goes.

[Sarkin]

My Private investiagtor had called me after I received my mom's info. We went over all the right and wrong things to say. She pretty much gave me a dialogue to use and all the scenarios that could happen; 1. she hangs-up 2. dead silence 3. she denies it 4. she is happy. For option 2, 3 and 4 the same things were to take place. I started the call w/ my PI's dialogue suggestion which goes something like this...,"Is this (my mom's name)? My name is Sarah and I am calling from (my state) in regards to a personal matter. Is this a good time to talk?" She thought I was a telemarketer and almost hung-up on me. I quickly said,"No, no. This is NOT a sales call. (MY mom's name) my names is Sarah I was born 7/20/71 in Elmira, Ny. Is this still a good time to talk?" That gives her a chance to say no if someone is sitting next to her that she doesn't want to talk w/ them there. W/ #1 above I would have called my PI back and we would have worked on the next step, but fortunately that didn't happen. So w/ 2, 3 and 4 after the inital dialogue, you just start talking and keep talking. There are 4 points that I wanted to say. 1. Reassure her that I am not calling to disrupt her life. That I consider this a personal matter just between her and me. 2. Let her know that I have always known I was adopted and that I have always had positive feelings towards her. 3. Ask if I could get medical history and family history not only for me, but for my children (lets her know she is a grandma) 4. Explain that I know she is probably shocked and wasn't prepared for this, but I though it best to call since I didn't know if a letter would be intercepted by someon who didn't know about me. I didn't want to make things difficult for her. This lets her know that you were thinking of her best interest. Then I made a list of al the questions that I ever wanted to know or would ever want to know. Ask questions as if this is the only time you will ever speak w/ this person.

I was very fortunate that my mom was thrilled to hear from me and was more than willing to answer all my questions. We talk/e-mail almost everyday and we can't wait till my trip to florida to meet so she is coming up in a couple of weeks This is truly an amazing thing and I wish everyone the best of luck in their searches and reunions. By the way. The call WAS NOT easy to make. I was shaking so badly that I could barely speak and I thought my heart was going to leap out of my chest, but I still feel it was the best way to contact her, at least for me!! God Bless.

[Sarkin]

Update- I got the letter from my mom and she had another daughter before me. She was also given up for adoption! Now I am looking for her I hope that I find her. It seems that the journey never ends.

Good luck in finding your sister!