[Rayma]

I believe that my problems come more from bad parenting. I don't know if I would have been happy with my bmom, but I do know I was miserable with my amom. Neigher were married. And both already had children. My bmom didn't give the others up, I know because my sisters babyset for them 2ce when I was an infant.

rayma

[litlbear6886]

I have yet to read the book, it's on it's way right now. When I was born, I was in the hospital for 3-4 weeks, then in a foster home for two weeks because my case worker was on vacation. While in the foster home, they couldn't figure out why I cried so much and what was wrong with me. They finally assumed I wasn't staying full enough on formula and was just hungry, so I was put on solid baby food at less than six weeks of age. My amom says that after she got me home, I would never nap during the day, that if she put me in my crib I would just scream until someone got me. I always had to be on someone's lap or held. My amom ran a beauty shop in the home, so she used her customers to hold me while she was able to work.
Not having read the book yet, I'm not sure if that is the same as the Primal Wound, but it was the first thing I thought of when I read the first post. But also, I don't think it has anything to do with if we'd have been happier with our bfamilies. At that age, it's not where we want to be. It's a small infant or child who has had the only connection they recognize completely disappear.

[ladyjubilee]

Originally posted by radical
I know that I don't have ADHD, nor does the father of my daughter...but she suffers from ADHD and OCD

Actually, if you had ADHD you probably wouldn't *know* you has it unless you were diagnosed. I've always known I was LD.....but until recently I didn't realize I was, as my mom put it, majorly ADD (inattentive). ((I was tested years ago and though I had read the results, had either not noticed for forgotten that diagnosis.)).......anyway, while I do believe that parenting can impact ADD/ADHD, I am a prime example of why parenting can't be blamed on parenting. Why? Well, guess what my mother does for a living? She's a special education teacher who specializes in learning disabilities and ADHD.

Only recently when she was teasing (it was gentle teasing--I'm comfortable with being LD as for all the "disabilities" being LD has, it was some great perks too) about be ADD, I reminded her I had to come by it "honest". For the first time, she stopped to consider and realized that, yes she does have ADD characterists too----but not to the severity of being truly ADD.

Finally, can I just say, there is nothing "wrong" with being ADD or ADHD. Sure, we have to work extra hard to conform--and spend an awful lot of time living on the edge, but then how many other folks can do four or five things at one time or live one continous adventure?

[Rayma]

I didn't mean to emply that bad parenting had anything to do with cases of REAL ADD Just that where I live the teachers who don't want or know how to deal with the child lable the child as having ADD, then the school psyologist agree based on the teaches observations. Than doctors precribe meds based on the fact that the child has already been dianosed. I also did not mean that there is anything bad about having ADD. Around here a lot more boys are dianosed with ADD than girls. In general boys are more active than girls during class.

I don't know if I had ADD, but I used to be able to read up to four books at a time or watch TV while doing my homework.

My son who was dianosed as ADD use to do several things at the same time as well.

I have read that people with ADD or ADHD are very artistice. I am and so is my son. Does ADD have anything to do with it? I don't know. I do know that it can be herititary. Maybe if it wasn't overly dianoesed they would find that it's all herititary.

I do not how ever believe that being adopted has anything to do with it. IF there is a high percentage of ADD amoung adopees it may be that the bparent has ADD or ADHD and did not feel that she could deal or pervide for a child. And the child inherited ADD/ADHD. Or a bmom who gives her child up for her reasons (she does not have ADD/ADHD but the bdad does) then the child inherited ADD/ADHD. That whould explain any high rates amoung adopees.

rayma