[ty2003]

I found out that I was adopted at the age of six y/o. At first I didn't know how to deal with it. In my own way I felt unwanted by my biological parents. It was hard. In my opinion if a child knows early in life then one has more time to process on what being adopted actually means. In my experience, being adopted is who I am. It is apart of me just like anything else. I can honestly say that at the age of 18 years that I would not change who I am b/c I love my parents just as if they were my biological parents. As I always tell my mom, I will always have a mother in my biological mother but you're my mom that has been there from the beginning. In short, to me there is a mother and then there is a mom.

[sherryk]

Welcome to the E-pal forum!!

It is good to hear adoptees take on this subject (when they were told they were adopted). Our daughter is only 3 years old, but adoption is a regular word around this house! She knows she is adopted (as much as she understands) and it is acceptable for others to use that word around her. I think it is funny when people spell out the word "adopted" to me like it is a secret. My daughter is also a different race than the rest of the family, so it is evident everywhere she goes. We celebrate her uniqueness and tell her how beautiful she is. Her older siblings love her like crazy, and it has been an amazingly smooth transition so far.

I had an aquaintance say recently that he loved talking about being adopted. He said he liked being different in that way! We should all feel confident in who we are! It sounds like you are the same way! Thanks for being so positive in your post!

Blessings to you!
sherryk
E-pal Moderator

[jayebryd]

ty2003
I think it is wonderful what you had to say. I'm sure it also makes your mom very happy and very loved when you tell her that!

[jesibean]

I agree totally with you. I am 22 years old and have always known I was adopted. I love my adopted parents with all my heart. Just over a year ago I did find my birth mother. It has been an amazing experience but no matter what my mom is my adopted mom. She's the one that was there when I was sick, the one that was there with milk and cookies when I got home from school. She'll always be my real mom.

Jesi

[Serenitygirl]

This is my first time posting here.
I found out that i was adopted when i was 16 years old.
From birth till then i was told that i was half Fillipino and half Caucasion. My mom was Fillipino and my dad white. I have a brother also that in the end i found out was adopted too.
I was told by my step-mom in a very spiteful way. You see my mom (adoptive) died 3 days after my 15th birthday of cancer.
Soon after my dad remarried. She didn't like me much, she also is Fillipino. There is so much more to this story but i will spare you all the horride details.
Up until my mom's death i had a wonderful childhood.
Needless to say i went into shock for what i'm told is 3 days. I don't remember much after the point that i confirmed what she told me was true.
It took me many years to come to terms with this and at the age of 31 i started a search. I'm now 33, soon to be 34 in March.
I have found my Bio- father and established a good relationship with him and my new bio sibblings and extened family. I found out that i'm Irish.
I'm still searching for my bio mother, i have been told that she is over seas. Her name is "Donna" and she was born in February 1942-43?
My advice to any one that is thinking of adopting..... Please don't hold it a secret. Secrets hurt more then the truth. I love my dad with all my heart but i can never forget the hidden truths about who and what i am.
Be true to your children and they in turn will be true to you.

[lohman69]

HI MY NAME IS ELLEN I AM LOOKING FOR MY SON JIMMY IN NJ HE WAS BORN DOWN HERE IN FLORIDA I AM SORRY TO SAY BUT THE ADOPTED PARENTS WERE PART OF THE PROBLUM IF YOU WOLD LIKE TO CHAT E MAIL ME AT JOHNNY151MISTY2yahoo.com ellen