[Tarah1012]

26 years ago today, the ink dried on my adoption papers...every year the same emotions come back....happy....sad...angry....does anyone else go through it every single year? I think about it everyday....but this day is always the worst!

[gemini678]

Hello Tarah,

Yes, I go through the same thing every year. But I notice now, the feelings aren't as heavy as they used to. Every special day or holiday is faced with mixed emotions......happy, sad, angry, hopeful. But for the last few years, those feelings have subsided a great deal.

I think I was 28 or 29 when I noticed a difference in the feelings on my 'gotcha day'.

I believe it's part of the process, the ups and downs that are associated with adoption.

[Tarah1012]

It's good to know that I am not the only one. Have you reunited with ur Bfamily?

[L.M.Merry]

I've always wondered if others thought about that day too. Mine was May 12th when my aparents first took me into their home. I had always known I was adopted but I was 10 years old when I first asked when that day was. We even had a cake that year to celebrate! But that date never goes by with out thinking what that must have been like for both mothers.

[St3v3n]

I never really gave a lot of thought to the day I was brought home by my parents. However, a few years ago my brother (who is also adopted and a little more than a year older than me) said "Happy Adoption Day" to me on that day. I didn't even know he knew what day it was. I sure don't know what day it was for him.

[Dickons]

Mom and Dad never celebrated any of our 'adoption days' and so I have never experienced this, I still do not know what the date was. I think if they had, it would have caused more issues for me and the other siblings than it would have solved...


Kind regards,
Dickons

[gemini678]

Tarah - I have reunited with bfamily, even though I have since decided to back away. Everyone's reunion is different and mine was a difficult one. But I did what I felt was best for me. I had to remove myself out of that situation. It's been over five years since I backed away from bmom and I have no regrets. No regrets meeting them and no regrets pulling away.