[maxmur]

i can't believe it! i will know today if the search for my birth mother has panned out! i will have answers one way or the other! i am so excited i don't know what to do with myself! i have been searching for over 30 years! thank you to all who are involved! any advice for me?

anxiously awaiting...

maxmur

[snuffie]

Oh, how exciting! I know how it feels to come to the end of a lonnnggg search! And somehow I thought that the end of the search would be the climax. But...it was only the beginning. I found that my bmom had passed away so I went through the grieving process while still being so excited to finally see her face in pictures! Then I reunited with my 8 siblings and there are no words to describe the feelings!
My advice - be prepared for anything and everything. Take things slowly and savor each new revelation. Take time to build a relationship if that is what you want.
I have a "memory" box filled with things from early in my reunion. Its fun to look at them and remember how I felt although it is difficult at this point to remember a time before I "knew".
I wish you much happiness.
Snuffie

[gorilla61701]

Snuffie,

You put everything you said so eloquently. I couldn't have said that any better.

I'm an adoptee and I give up with this search. I think she was my aunt anyway and she died. I asked her about it yeras ago when I was a teenager and she yelled at me and that was our only argument we ever had and our relationship wasn't the same till the she died!

[snuffie]

Thanks Gorilla.
That is so sad. But please don't let one negative person discourage you. I have a birth relative who was downright nasty to me and I felt very hurt for a long time. But after becoming good friends with her sister, I know she wasn't just that way with me - but with everyone she comes in contact with.