[RaCHaeL125]

maybe there isn't a point in looking for her. i know she did want me to have contact with her after i turned 18, but she was only 18 when she had me. i'm sure that now she got over it somehow, and i may be selfish... but i cannot bear to think of what will happen if i don't like what i find. or if she doesn't want to have anything to do with me. it will completely crush my entire soul. i know i feel empty inside, but maybe that emptiness can't be fixed by her or anyone. i'm so scared. i know her whole name and i see her on a couple social networking sites, but no picture or phone number. i have her husbands name too. what sites do you guys look to find or look? i know she isn't on any registries, i just know it. i just want to do some good snooping on here.... that's all i'm even ready for now. i don't know if i will ever be ready for this. if she does still love me, there is nothing i want more than to meet her, but i need to protect my heart here.

anyone have any input on stalking sites? i found her on linkedin, classmates, and reunion.
and any input on how to protect my heart through this hell it's going through.... even though i know there is no answer for that.....

[bflymc]

A birthmother just doesn't forget her child and I don't see how she can just get over it, especially because she signed consent allowing you to contact her after you turned 18. Who knows? Maybe she's been waiting for you all this time.

I wouldn't recommend using any of those sites you listed to contact her. Most people create an account and never look at it again or they check it very rarely. Plus, to private message (for classmates at least) you have to pay for a membership.

whitepages.com is probably your best option for a phone number and address. If your bmom isn't listed then use her husband's name to search. Do you know if they are still married? If so, chances are his address listed is also her address.
Also, beware of scam sites. Basically, if they ask for your credit card # don't use that site!! Chances are you can find the same information for free. I learned that the hard way...

I hope you find what you're looking for. Try not to expect too much!! Easier said than done, I know. But if you really want to "protect your heart," than that's the best advice I think any one can give.