[bumblebeeskies]

I didn't want to take over Brandy's post, so I started a new thread to address some of the things that EZ said.

Then while you are living in your amom's home, she has ankle surgery and obviously requires and needs your help, but you refuse or least have no desire to help her. How is it OK for you ro got to her for your own needs and benefit, but it is not OK for you to help her in her time of need?

My mom is also unemployed and for now, she can't live without the money I give her. So, I help her out that way. I did feel guilty about not being able to help her with her ankle. I believe though, that as much rage as I was filled with, it wasn't safe for either one of us for me to help her. She has serious controll issues and thinks she can just order people around. I realize that her needing help wasn't the same as asking me to uproot my life, but at the same time, I too had responsibilities that I couldn't just give up.

If your that resentful of helping amom, I would just move out and not expect the benefits of living in her home.

Trust me, the benefits of living here are few to none. My amom is very controlling and still emotionally abusive and even occasionally physically abusive. I wish that it was simple for me to move out. The county I live in has VERY FEW programs to help low income people obtain housing. Except for a time period of a couple months (that I didn't know about), the section 8 list has been closed. I can't even get on the list.

I think the biggest problem I deal with, and have no idea what to do about it, is blaiming her for my need to be on disability. I don't understand the horrible things that parents often do to their kids. I have Emotional deprivation disorder. I just try to stay by myself as much as I can. I'll be the first to admit that I have no idea what to do.

[mlassi]

Yikes. I hope you can find a way to get out of there asap. (((((((((bumblebeeskies)))))))

[EZ2Luv]

I hope you didn't think I was trying to be disrespectful, I asked with honest sincerity because I know how sometimes adult children are in a situation where they find themselves moving back home. It just struck me as strange that a woman that you say "makes you sick" would be a place where you would move to.

That must be a tough situation to be in/ I know that the Section * programs have closed down where I live and the lists that do exist are 4 and 5 year waits. But they also have emergency certifictea that they give out. i knw of some people that were facing homelessness that got them. You might want to look into if your area has a program like that.
I work with people who have mental illness and substance abuse and know that sometimes medical providers can intervene and help a preson get housing by writing letters. I would think your doctor or therapsist maight be able to help you since it is obvious living there is lethal and not condusive to your recovery. Abuse is abuse and if your doctor is aware of you being abused he may be able to direct you to a program that you could go stay at until a housing oppurunity opens for you.
Your posts make me sad that you are right back at the very place you feel are the root of your illness.

EZ