[Sniffles]

Dex,

Here are a few sites to try that have Search Angels that are very good at what they do.

G'S Adoption Registry Home Page

and

Adoption Registry

The second link used to deal with Texas only, but they have branched out now. I know most of the Search Angels and they know how to navigate Texas records.

I suggest that you post your info on each one of those and see if you can get something from there.

[Dex]

Hi Sniffles,

I will try both of those sites. Tried Txcare with no response. I think if bparents or bsiblings were looking they would have registered through Gladney that being the simplest most direct approach though I could be wrong. Hopefully the response is better on these sites.

Also, I'm thinking about signing up to one of these people finder/public records database sites such as Reunion, Ancestry, Intelius, Vcao, ect, what is the best one for finding information on people, I don't want to waste any money.

Dex

edit: just realized the second link is txcare. My account is still there but I pulled my listing because I didn't get ONE response. My post very clear as well, asking for a search angel in the title that you see before you read the rest. Also I emailed every search angel listed on G's with no response. Is there any point of putting my listing up there?

Originally Posted by Sniffles

Dex,

Here are a few sites to try that have Search Angels that are very good at what they do.

G'S Adoption Registry Home Page

and

Adoption Registry

The second link used to deal with Texas only, but they have branched out now. I know most of the Search Angels and they know how to navigate Texas records.

I suggest that you post your info on each one of those and see if you can get something from there.

[Dex]

I want to edit this whole post but I can't find the option to do so. So how do I do it, right after I post I can edit but now I don't see the option?

I'm feeling much better now.
I registered at G's and have a good feeling about it. Also I emailed a bunch of the search angels that can search any state and have already received three replies, so I'm very excited about that.

Thank you so very much for the links

Dex

Originally Posted by Dex

Hi Sniffles,

I will try both of those sites. Tried Txcare with no response. I think if bparents or bsiblings were looking they would have registered through Gladney that being the simplest most direct approach though I could be wrong. Hopefully the response is better on these sites.

Also, I'm thinking about signing up to one of these people finder/public records database sites such as Reunion, Ancestry, Intelius, Vcao, ect, what is the best one for finding information on people, I don't want to waste any money.

Dex

edit: just realized the second link is txcare. My account is still there but I pulled my listing because I didn't get ONE response. My post very clear as well, asking for a search angel in the title that you see before you read the rest. Also I emailed every search angel listed on G's with no response. Is there any point of putting my listing up there?

[StarryNights™]

Dex,

I wanted to point out something that you may find rather odd. Unfortunately, not everyone has a computer or even knows how to use one. So while you think, "I think if bparents or bsiblings were looking they would have registered through Gladney that being the simplest most direct approach though I could be wrong." There is a small problem with this line of thinking... The birth parents could easily be like mine. Completely computer illiterate. Birth father just recently figured out how to open an attachment after my half sister showed him. He will be 60 this year.

So you have to think of it from the perspective of while we no longer are tied to waiting at the mailbox, not everyone knows to go to the library and use a computer or even where to begin to look. That may sound daunting and for that I am sorry. But I had to let you know that just because you have not been found does not necessarily mean they don't want to know you. They honestly just may not know how to go about it. Call it a learning curve of sorts.

Hugs dear and hang in there. I have been reunited for 5 years now and still have a missing sibling out there despite my best efforts.

[Jackiejdajda]

julie23

the visual image i have of you smoking pot NOW... just cracks me up..

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I like a laugh..

Jackie

[Dex]

Yesterday got the email saying they gave the private investigator copies of my adoption records including all identifying information. Said it usually takes 4-6 weeks for them to make contact.




At 3pm today I received this email:

Dear Charles,

This is an update on your request for The Gladney Center to search and locate your birth mother.

We are excited to be able to report that our private investigator has recently located your birth mother and has provided me with her current address. The information the investigator has received on your birth family is very vague, as most of the information she received was from a computer. I have recently sent your birth mother a letter on stationary that has a post office box number, asking that she be in contact with me at her earliest convenience. I will be happy to update you on my contact with your birth mother, as soon as she is in contact with me. Please realize that some birth mothers respond to this type of a letter very promptly and some wait for a couple of weeks before responding. I suggest at this point, that if you have not all ready provided your birth mother with a non-identifying letter, that you begin writing one as soon as possible so that I will be able to provide it to her once I am in contact with, if she were to desire it. A letter and picture from you will be very comforting to her, as it will reassure her that you are happy and healthy.





That's what I call service!!




Also went to Jury Duty today. The defendant decided to plead guilty so we all got released and don't have to go back!


Pretty good day all in all!!

[nilesgirl]

EXCELLENT!!!! That is so great! Now we will all pray that the contact they make with your birthmother is a resounding success and that you have a wonderful reunion. I believe you said you found a support group to go to....They will be very helpful with the whirlwind of emotions that are on their way. Great news!!

[julie23]

oh Dex!!!! how wonderful....

welcome to the roller coaster..... the never ending ride of your life.... it's called "Reunion"

your friend,
julie

[Dickons]

Hi Dex,

My fingers are crossed for a quick and positive response to the letter.

I am also impressed with the adoption agency...

Too cool...

Kind regards,
Dickons

[sstuart]

YAY!! I am a recently reunited birthmother. I hope all goes well for you!!

Keep us updated

[txrnr]

Great news Dex! Congrats.

[Dex]

Thank you all for the prayers, well wishes, and for sharing the joy of this moment with me.

Between you guys, my therapist, and the adoption support group I have a very solid support system in place.

You all are awesome.

Dex

[Sniffles]

YEA Dex!!!!! I am so glad that you have gotten a response.

[Dex]

Hello and good day to you all.

Going to the adoption triad support group was a great experience for me. The value of talking to people who know and understand what you are truly feeling cannot be described. It was the first time in my life that I could talk openly about my experience in public without fear of alienating or pushing away the listener.
Very cool, even healing in a sense.

My birthmother responded to the letter!!
Says she's overwhelmed by the letter and very emotional

She's happy I'm alive and doing well

She's married with two kids 17 and 20.

Her husband knows, the children do not. She's afraid they wont understand.

She's very healthy and active; plays tennis and runs. Says there is no cancer in the family and even said there is nothing medical to report, which I thought was strange...NO medical?



She wants to take her time in this process. She is not sure if she wants to register(which is the only way I can get identifying information as Gladney acting as the intermediary).


She does want for me to send the letter though!!!! Which is the biggest thing for me at this stage of the game. At least shes open to that.

Her main question is " why did you chose now to search". LOL is there ever a perfect time for this?? Maybe she would rather have it after the kids are in college.

She says she will respond to the letter but it might take some time because she's so overwhelmed by this.

My adoptive mother is helping me write the letter, shes been so supportive of me

Im going to take my sweet time writing this as I know how crucial this first letter is.

I would like the birthmothers on here advice on what I should say or what they would want to hear in her position. Reunited adoptees too, I would like to hear from you if you have anything to add.

Another milestone in my search, my mood has lifted considerably.

Bless you all,

Dex

[txrnr]

That's great Dex! I am so happy you've had some communication. It seems the general thought is the slower a reunion goes, the better it is in the long run. I'm sure she's been thinking a lot about you, especially lately.

Good luck!