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#1
04-30-2008, 01:22 PM
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My God emotions.........
sorry but I have just recieved my birth records. Not what I excpected. Im Irish great but ny mums description was she was beautiful pale petite black hair and brown eyes. What a surprise I am blonde petite blue eyes and so are all my three children not petit though lol. My father and mother never wanted an adoption but her father insisted. I have just discovered that my birth father made contact 20 years ago im 36 wanting to see me when I turned 18. He had told his wife about me. I feel **** why did noone tell me this 20 years ago I had to wit until know. I feel increadably guilty noone bothered to tell me that my bfather had been searching.
ANGREY PISS........... OFF  
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#2
05-01-2008, 06:48 AM
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People controlling others lives... I hate it..
This controlling of people lives is something I fight.. Someone who knows what is best for another should be told to stop it.. Just stop it... You have a right to your anger.. This must really be upsetting.. Jackie
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#3
05-01-2008, 07:24 AM
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OMG... I feel so bad for you. I have to tell you I am a birthmother who was just able to request contact with my birthson. The agency contacted the parents (actually only able to speak with the afather) and my request was declined as he did not feel this was a good time in my birthson's life for communication to start. He told the agency that he was unsure if he would even mention this to his wife at all. He said if my son ever expressed a desire to find me... they would support him. It makes me think that they have no intention of ever letting him know that I have cared enough to try to find him and talk to him. Even if he wants no relationship with me, I want an opportunity to explain why he was placed for adoption. He turns 19 next Wednesday :-( and it will be the start of another very long year for me. I hope you are able to find some sort of healing for your situation.
Last edited by bmomto2_momto2 : 05-01-2008 at 07:28 AM.
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05-02-2008, 01:12 AM
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Thanks for your support my amother has no idea about this it was the adoption agancy that didnt bother to inform me. Catholics lol. Do you think my bdad will still want to see me even though Im 20 years late. I bet he thinks why should I bother. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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#5
05-02-2008, 03:34 PM
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I would have wanted to see my son, even if it took 50 years!
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Oh, to meet you once again! To pick up the thread that I left dangling so long ago, to weave it into my life, to finally emerge whole. Oh, the peace and wonder of it. (by Lee Campbell)
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#6
05-02-2008, 06:46 PM
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Yes, I am sure your bdad still wants to have contact. He has probably been waiting to hear from you!!! Keep us posted on what information you are able to find and if you are able to make contact. At least you know he was looking for you!!! That's a great feeling to have!
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#7
05-02-2008, 09:53 PM
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Yes!
I am sorry that you went through that. I absolutely think that your bdad would still want to see you. I wish you the best of luck and will keep you in my thoughts and prayerz hugz Tina
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#8
05-03-2008, 07:20 AM
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The agency that I used and contacted more than 21 years after relinquishing.. followed the rules.. And I was told that if I put a letter open for contact with all my current information in it.. they would not contact my bson.. he had to contact them as well.. The woman I spoke with on the phone was very into the laws of the land.. Jackie
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#9
05-03-2008, 12:45 PM
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You are all making me feel posotive thankyou. My adoptive agancy are contacting my fathers old address after next week. The wait is hard I always think of my self as a well mentaly stabalised person (lol). Well I am a mental health nurse. Now my emotions have gone to a place that I ahave never experienced I need support. Thankgod for this forum I could never speak to anyone else regarding this everyone always sees me as level headed person without a care in the world. Even the women who gave me my personal file said arnt you calm ect. Thankyou again all of you I will let you know If I get any contact from my father.
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#10
08-15-2008, 02:59 AM
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been in contact with birth family on my bfathers side.
Have met all the family. They are really nice and are all glad to see me. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx 
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#11
08-15-2008, 03:07 AM
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HOW WONDERFUL! I am so happy for you.
 better late than never. thanks for the update
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#12
08-15-2008, 04:26 AM
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Congratulation!!! Enjoy.
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#13
08-15-2008, 06:39 AM
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That's awesome!!! I'm so happy for you!!
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1st Mom & Adopted Adult In Reunion Forgiveness is almost a selfish act because of its immense benefits to the one who forgives. - Lawana Blackwell
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#14
08-15-2008, 07:18 AM
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So very sad but what a wonderful outcome
So very happy for you.
Kind regards, Dickons
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#15
08-15-2008, 03:41 PM
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WOW! CONGRATS!!!
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