[grace19]

How many people here were adopted and then placed in foster care because the adoption didn't work out for whatever reason?

[BrandyHagz]

I was adopted at birth - not placed back in the system, really, but was placed at age 5 in a group home with foster kids, at my parents expense - I then 'aged out' when I filled for emancipation after I graduated, but before I turned 18.

[gnattylove]

Brandy, how awful for you. Why in the world would your adoptive parents do that to you? I am so sorry you had to go through that. I struggle with abandonment issues and I am sure you do too.

Take Care,

[grace19]

I heard this is more common than thought to be. There is probably a lot of guilt and shame from all parties involved and that is why it's not talked about. I think it would be great if the silence was broken and the healing could begin. Many families assume they are alone in this kind of situation.

[babygirlCA]

At age 14 I was finally removed from my abusive afamily's home and placed in foster care and emancipated from the system.

[carolynppk]

My brother (adoptive, not blood) was kept my his bmom for a while and then placed for adoption. He went into foster care. He was adopted and the marriage fell apart and the welfare department realized there were issues there and this was not a good placement, so they ended the adoption before it was finalized. He was then placed back in the same foster hom and my parents got him shortly after his second birthday. I know this has had a profound affect on him and his relationships and his ability to really feel love.

Carolyn

[TWJNM]

I was also wondering what happens if the adoption didn't work and the child is put back in the system. The reason is....my husband and I have been trying to find a child that was adopted. As I was looking at the pictures of kids needing to be adopted, I ran across a picture of a child that looks just like bio-grandma. Is it possible or is it just wishful thinking on our part? The child in the picture has a different name than the name given at birth. Could this be the name given to her when adopted?
Any advice will be greatfully appreciated.

[grace19]

Originally Posted by TWJNM

I was also wondering what happens if the adoption didn't work and the child is put back in the system. The reason is....my husband and I have been trying to find a child that was adopted. As I was looking at the pictures of kids needing to be adopted, I ran across a picture of a child that looks just like bio-grandma. Is it possible or is it just wishful thinking on our part? The child in the picture has a different name than the name given at birth. Could this be the name given to her when adopted?
Any advice will be greatfully appreciated.

ok, sorry I'm little unclear about your message.
You're trying to find a child that the adoption placement failed and he/she is back in foster care and you would like to care for the child?

[TWJNM]

Dear Gracie,
I apologize for not being more clear. As I reread my post, I was confused at what I wrote myself. The child we are searching for is a sibling of my step-daughter. The child was taken away from her bio mom at the age of 2 by the state of Iowa and supposedly was adopted. I was looking through some of the photos that are on here of kids waiting to be adopted when I came across a picture of a little girl that looks very much like my step-daughters bio grandma.
The name that is underneath the photo of this child is different from the name that was given to the little when she was born to bio mom. I was wondering if this could be the child we are searching for? How can we find out ?
Again, sorry for not being more clear.