[indianasarah]

At almost 11 months my CI notified me that they had found my birthmother.

The CI has only tried 1 time to call her. She left her a message on her answering machine saying that she is doing reseach on her maiden name.

She said now we will wait for her to call her back

who on earth would respond to a message like that ?

She said she wont try calling again until AFTER the holidays


Am I wrong to be upset ? Is there anything I can do ? I feel like my CI is only doing this when its convient for her

I have paid a lot of money and waited almost a year and now that she found her she doesnt seem to care.

[susiesgirl]

im from Michigan and i used an intermediary. It took her less then 3 weeks to find my momma. Yours should ha all the info at her finger tips and needs to make another call. Mine told my baunt that she had something for my momma and that only SHE could have it. Sounds like your getting the runaround...maybe hire another one...

[ladysapphire]

well u don't know for sure why she doesn't wanna do it again before the hollidays. i think u need to relax. i mean it could upset ur bmother so give it time and hope for the best.

Anna

[Kerri Oehlenschlager]

You have hired a CI, She works for you. You have paid her to provide a service to you. She needs to keep calling, do not leave a message, wait for her to answer , and them she can tell her why she is calling.
I can't beleive she is making you wait this long. I have also hired a CI, still searching. She works for me. She told me a story not long ago, last Christmas Eve she had received some more info about one her clients. She picked up the phone and gave her the info. What a great Christmas present she gave.
I would contact you CI as soon as possible and have her continue daily phone calls.
I hope you have not paid her in full yet!

[jenn_e_ritter]

time to go with a PI instead of CI

[DebsW]

The social worker at the agency I was adopted from did the search for me. It took approx four months and she contacted her by letter and by phone. The letter basically stated the following:

Dear (name here)
My name is .... and I have a serious topic to discuss with you that is personal in nature. This is not a hoax or any attempt to try to sell you anything. Please contact me at this number on these days at these times.

She then listed her name, dates she worked, and the hours she was in the office. She wrote it her own handwriting on stationary so it did not look like a "mailer". My mom said she knew exactly what it was when she read it and she said she just started shaking. When she called the social worker she asked my mom a whole list of questions to make sure she was talking to the correct birthmother. My mom interrupted her and said "I know why your are calling". It went really well. Then we started to correspond with the social worker as the intermed. This was two weeks before Christmas of 2005. I am spending the holiday with my birth family as I did for Thanksgiving.

The other posts are correct, you hired her to do a job for you and she needs to step it up and get to work.

Happy Holidays!

DebsW