[nccmama]

Hello Everyone,

I just read a post on another forum here where somebody described him/herself as being "half adopted". Is this a common phrase? I was so pleased to see it, because it describes my own situation as well (raised by birthmom, never knew bio dad, mom married when I was 11 and I was adopted by him then).

Is this the best way to put it if I post something, and am I in the right place? Is there a site devoted to children of "unwed mothers" from the "swinging sixties" who "kept" their babies and raised them without fathers? Thanks.

[Baby Melissa]

You're referring to HealingFeeling. She has the same situation as you. And of course, you're in the right place and VERY welcome!! Hugs all around!

[healingfeeling]

hey nccmama!

I'm one of the half adoptees here (you may have been reading one of my threads).

I'm reunited with my bdad! Met him this March and we have a great relationship

if you have any questions for me ask away...

Alli Driscoll is also half-adopted. We post here with all the other adoptees....

we carry all the same issues...

sometimes i think i have more because my mother would never tell me anything and it was a big secret in our family (i was the dirty little secret...you can probably relate!)

anyway, we have a wonderful family here and welcome!

[nccmama]

Thanks for the warm welcome! It's a difficult situation, to be sure. I didn't really feel too much like a "dirtly little secret", since it was pretty obvious that there was no father in my life until my mom married when I was 11. Lots of other no daddy type issues, though. I'm sure that you can understand. But when I was ready to find "him" and found out about the twin factor, I was totally thrown for a loop and decided not to deal with any of it. I laughed about it, and still do, since it's just so absurd. I mean, REALLY! If you're going to get pregnant, mom, couldn't you at least make sure that you knew which brother it was? I guess I should be glad that she narrowed it down to one family! There must be many people that have no way to ever know who their father (or mother) are, so I guess that I should be grateful for that. It's just so frustrating to have located the family, but still not be able to ever know my father. So close, but yet so far sort of feeling.

I'm not quite sure of what to do next. I guess I need patience, to be sure, but what besides that? Maybe send a letter to my aunt with some pictures? Evidently, I look a lot like her and the rest of the gang. Maybe seeing my face will convince her that I should be "part of the family"?

[Alli_Driscoll]

Just wanted to say hi and welcome to the boards. As healing said, I'm also a half-adoptee. I haven't been around much lately. I recently lost my sister and am just now getting to where I seem to be able to function. Anyways, glad to see you here.

Alli