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My name is Melody. I found out I was adopted when I was 28 years old and I had a daughter that was six months old. I am 44 years old now, my daughter is seventeen and I have been divorced for 12 years. I am a graduate student seeking my Master's in Human Development. Taking courses for my degree has open my curiosity about my adoption and has made me revisit the feelings I had when I found out late in life about my adoption. most rescently I took a class on enthicity and heritage which made me even more curious about my own heritage. My curiosity of my adoption has beacome so focused that I have decided to write my thesis on adults who found out about thier adoption in thier adult years. I want to find a common ground with them and pehaps help me understand some of my issues. I have mix emotions about how I want to proceed with finding out more about my biological family. It would be nice to hear from others who found out late in life about thier adoption and how they are coping.

[Foundoutat50]

I found out at 50 and it was quite a shock to find out that such a piece of news was successfully kept secret up to that point in my life. My parents and their siblings all knew but no one ever slipped up and let the secret out. After I stumbled on the truth, a couple of older cousins on my mom's side confirmed that they knew but that my parents never shared any information on how they got me.

My dad had died by the time my husband and I adopted our daughter but I always wonder how my mom could have continued to keep the secret, knowing that I had also become an adoptive mom.

It meant that the family history my doctor had taken from me was all bogus and that when I had asked my mom specific questions about family illnesses on two separate occasions (because of my own health concerns), she misled me.


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