[grace19]

Next week I'm going to a family reunion and will see someone there who lived close to my bfamily. I so want to ask if they have seen or talked to my bfamily but I don't want to do it in front of the rest of my family. I don't know if I should ask anything at all. I'm trying not to think about it and see if he says anything to me. That's what happened the last time but I'm sort of dying to know.

[patti Daniels]

Ask. You will never know unless you ask. That is my suggestion. Good Luck

Originally Posted by grace19

Next week I'm going to a family reunion and will see someone there who lived close to my bfamily. I so want to ask if they have seen or talked to my bfamily but I don't want to do it in front of the rest of my family. I don't know if I should ask anything at all. I'm trying not to think about it and see if he says anything to me. That's what happened the last time but I'm sort of dying to know.

[whitsunday15]

Yeah, I say pull this person aside and ask in private. If you don't, then later on you will be kicking yourself!

[Turthipo]

LoL - I'm all for asking - you'd never know right?

I'm in your position (sort of). I recieved papers saying that my mom is so&so and dad is what'shisname and other info. So I looked up so&so & found a couple of guys with that lastname in that area - called him to see if he knew anything. Response was "maybe" and I just asked him to let her know that I am here, I'd love to meet her, I am not unhappy about my adoption & I'd appreciate a few answers to medical questions. Well, that was 2 months ago - but at least he let me know that she's moved on & it will possibly take awhile to come around. That's all I can ask for really, right?

Don't worry too much. Unfortunately, it's not always a nice answer but until you actually move forward, there's no way to know.

Best of Luck!

[Nicole28]

Oh wow, yes - pull them aside and ask! You don't want to regret it if you don't. What an opportunity!

Good luck & keep us updated.

[Toolate]

Hi Grace19,
I would try to speak with this person alone and find out as much as I could. If possible, don't let this opportunity slip away. If the two of you have spoken about this subject before, the importance should be obvious to your acquaintance. Let us know what happens!

[grace19]

I got to speak to the family member in private and I did ask. However he has moved out of state and hasn't been back to visit. So I don't know anything. Oh well I'm glad I inquired about it.