[sullengirl]

I have some information but I feel like there is no hope in finding bparents. The search is very depressing.

Please help.

[Nicole28]

Hi Peggy!

Here are some links to information regarding adoption records in MD...

http://www.mdarchives.state.md.us/ms...tml/adopt.html

That site has information about sealed and unsealed records and how to obtain identifying information.

http://www.dhr.state.md.us/adoption/index.htm

That site has information about search and reunion in MD.

http://laws.adoption.com/statutes/maryland-laws.html

That site has contact information & an explanation of MD adoption laws - super helpful!

NOW - you said you have some information. What information do you have? Give me the details and maybe we can be of more help.

Also - remember to be patient. The search & reunion process is a long one!

Nicole

[sullengirl]

Here's the information I have... From what I was told by my mother is that My Bmother left me with her. She was actually my babysitter that ended up adopting me. I was also told that I have a sister that was 2 years younger than me. My sister was given to someone else that could only take one of us. I'm not sure but my ** may have ties to California.
My birth name was Peggy Ann Herget. My birth mother is Mary (C)Katherine Mitchell, Bfather is Harry Anthony Herget (I was told that he died when I was a kid, a car accident or something)I was born at the Womens Hospital in 1960 in Baltimore. The hospital doesn't exist anymore. I had my original birth cert. but no longer have it. I gave it to someone that was supposed to me help me search. But they dissappeared with it and my money.


Thanks for your reply

[Nicole28]

I would order another copy of your original birth certificate. The link to the site below might have more information -http://www.dhr.state.md.us/adoption/index.htm

Do a search on the Internet for your birthmother and birthfather's names and see what comes up. If you think she has ties to CA, try typing in her full name and then CA afterwards to narrow the search a little.

Does your adoptive mother have any paperwork relating to your adoption?

[sullengirl]

I did an internet search numerous times with no luck. Just a lot of off the wall stuff. Maybe i'm not searching it right?The original bc was one given to my amom by my bmom. I was issued one with my new name after that. I though I wouldn't be able to get it again. Isn't it locked away or something? When we talked about me being adopted she didn't mention having any papers....just the information I posted.


thank you so much for your help

[Nicole28]

You're right, you cannot get another copy of your obc in a sealed record state.

Ask your adoptive mom for any and all information and paperwork she has regarding your adoption. You never know what you may find when you go through that! When you say that your birthmother gave your adoptive mom a copy of your obc, does this mean that they were in contact at some point? I would have a conversation with your mom about your adoption process.

If Internet searches have not worked, you need to register with the MD adoption registry. I believe I included a link to their site in my earlier post. If not, do a Google search for "Maryland state adoption registry."

Here are a few more links that you might want to check out:

http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/ma...resources.html

http://www.birthfamily.com/deitrahs/MDSA.html

Good luck.

Nicole

[athena09]

Hi, I found my bmom thorough SS in my county. I had to pay a fee based on a slide scale of earnings, I think it was about $150. She found my bmom and arranged 1st contact. Hope this helped some.

[Nicole28]

Joy,

Can you give us some more information? What is SS and how did they find her?

The more details the better! Thanks for replying...

Nicole

[athena09]

Sorry Guys!! I meant Department of Social Services (DSS), they were very helpful. It was Anne Arundel County in my case, but if you call your local DSS they should be able to help you start the search and open any closed records. I was born in a different county, picked up in another county and adopted through Anne Arundel county.

[Nicole28]

Thanks Joy!

If only it were that easy to open records here in NYS!

Tell us a little more about your reunion!

[athena09]

I didn't think it would be easy here either.

There is not much to say about my reunion, I don't think she was really into the idea. She has twin 14year old girls now and is going through her 2nd divorce. We e-mailed back and forth a few times, she hadn't responded to the last e-mail so I dropped it. Around Christmas I e-mailed her again to see how she and the girls were and she responded once and that was it. I figure if she's not ready to meet/talk then that's OK with me, I've gone this long not knowing her, it is not a necessity.

[sullengirl]

Hi, Thank you for all the info that has been posted

let me just say this... I had a pretty rough life. My amom could be very cruel and abusive. So I don't know if this is what actually happened....

From what I was told throughout my life, I was in my birth mothers care until I was 2. She worked on "the block" which is a block of strip clubs and even prostitutes. She left me with my babysitter. When my babysitter realized she wasn't coming back she called Social Services. The police were looking for her but they never found her. They said she could have ran off to Cali. I was temporarily placed in a foster home and then adopted by my babysitter. I don't know why I said she got my obc from my bmom.. I'm not sure how she got it.. oh, and my bmom sister was a nun. I've heard so many things and none of it makes sense.

The things I know to be true are both of my parents names and ages ...bmom and bdad were both 20 at the time of my birth. my obc had my bdad's occupation at a Bakery, i'm not sure which one...I just wish this info. was enough to go on

I called the 1-800 number on one of the sites for my state. They are going to send me out forms to fill out for the non ident. and registry. I'm not sure how helpful this will be because according to my bmom she abandoned me. So, is this my only hope of finding them or my bsis? Are there more options?

I am going to talk to my amom as soon as I get the guts to talk to her about it.to see if there is any more info I can get from her.

[athena09]

Sullengirl - I also had a cruel and sometimes amom. I am 26 and her and I are just starting to get along a little better. But I have never really talked to her about my adoption, just cause we don't have a close relationship at all. As I said above I went through Dept of Social Services and they did all the work in finding my bmom. You can PM me if you need to talk about anything or discuss things.

Best of luck!!

[sullengirl]

I feel like just giving up.

Now from talking to my adoptive mom she said my birth mom could even be dead because around the time she abandoned me, there was a body of a 20 year old female found in the inner harbor, the person was never identified.

Is there any way to check to see if this is true. Will they tell me when I do the registry thing?

[Nicole28]

The chances of your birthmother being the woman who was murdered and found in the harbor is probably slim to none. Don't you think so? I think it's a stretch for your mom to suggest that - and also a little discouraging.

If you register with the state registry the only way you will find out identifying information about your birthmom is if she has registered also and has consented to contact. I am not positive if they will inform you of her passing or not - does anyone know?? I would guess that they would only tell you if she had registered and consented to the sharing of her information. I'm not sure, though, so I would try and get in touch with someone from the state registry and ask those kinds of questions.