[Kindreds]

SS - could you explain why you want your children to be around your amother?

This little essay helped me decide who I wanted to have in the front row of my life...

Life is a Theater . . . Invite Your Audience Carefully!
Not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives. There are some people in our lives that need to be loved from a distance. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships or friendships.
Observe the relationships around you. Pay close attention. Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don’t really understand, know or appreciate you?
The more you seek Quality, Respect, Growth, Peace of Mind, Love, and Truth around you, the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
Remember that the people we hang with will have an impact on our lives. And so, we must be careful to choose the people we hang out with, as well as the information with which we feed our minds.
We should not share our dreams with negative people, nor feed them with negative thoughts.
So, I ask the question. . .
Who’s in YOUR front row?

[krielly]

Originally Posted by soulsearching

At some point I am going to have to forgive my mother. But I think I hold onto it by choice because I am not willing to give her the power that goes along with forgiving her. It's like I'll be giving up a defense shield when I really don't trust her... I don't know - it's hard to explain.



It's funny, I just caught myself thinking "If only I could get rid of all this stuff without forgiving her." It's like I truly do know what to do to move forward, but I am just not willing yet to 'reallocate' all that power to her.


SS

I find it interesting that you feel that by hanging on to your anger you are keeping the "power"...... Perhaps you should try looking at this in the reverse. I think that by hanging on to the anger you are actually GIVING her the power. The power over your life and your relationship. By allowing the anger to languish, and not letting it go, you are allowing her the power to control how you are living your life now.

I think that it's only by somehow finding a way to let things go that you actually regain your power and have control over how you are from this day forward, regardless of what's happened in the past..........

Just a thought...........................

Karen