[jeanette reno]

it has taken me 26 years to work up the nerve to request identifying info on my bp from wi. wi is great for searching, i found out that if you r at least 21 you can request info. If there isn't permission from the bp on file already, the state finds them to see if they want to give permission.( i don't know if this is what all states do, but i was glad to find out wi did it this way ). anyway it has taken so long because in my head i knew there wouldn't be anything in my file and i was so afraid of rejection. but i figure life is short and it is better to be rejected than never try. just over a week ago i recieved an e-mail from the woman working on my search. she told me my ** filed the paperwork giving them permission to release her info 10 years ago, when i was 16 or17yrs old. i can't even put into words how great and loved that made me feel. the catch is that paternity was established at my birth, therefore my bf has to give his permission before i can get any info on iether of them. he hasn't filed any paperwork giving permission yet. the lady doing my search told me she has an address for him but no phone #, so she is writing a letter. i am very scared that he will not give his permission. he was only 14. he would only be around 40 now. would a man who was only 14 feel any kind of desire to know thier child.
or if he has no desire to know me would he at least give his permission so i can meet my **? i guess i will just have to wait and see.

[carolynppk]

Jeanette,

I just wanted you to know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. I know that the fear of rejection and all the emotions that go along with searching are very overwhelming. I don't have much to offer but support, thoughts and prayers. I had to let you know that someone heard what you have written and acknowledges your feelings, hopes and fears. Good luck and keep us informed.

Carolyn