[adopteemellyb]

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[hprestonalexand]

What a perdicument! How wired, all of these coincedences? I wish I had an abosute to tell you, or just know what you should do or what you should say.

Are close with your a/parents? Can you talk to them?
I understand that you are under 18, so you don't want to screw up any chanced of speaking with your teacher in regards to this very personal situation for you.

Man, if you can, I would say talk to your folks first.
If you can not, I would try going to an very close adult friend of counseler or if you don't have either, then cosult a very close frind. Think clearly, follow your heart.

If you have no other options, maybe slowly and very respectfully start giving him hints or askng him questions, compare what info he might give you to what you already have or your parents may have.

PLEASE EVERYONE, IF I HAVE GIVEN THIS PERSON IMPROPER ADVICE, CHIME IN AND SAY SO.

THis is what I would do.......

Best of luck to you adopteemellyb

[hprestonalexand]

Please come back and tell us what you did or what you diceded to do.

I am so eager to know and to know how you feel.

Thank you for sharing and for reaching out for advice.
You sound very mature, this will bennefit you!

Take care

Write soon

[adopteemellyb]

Wow, thanks for that advice hprestonalexand. It sounds do-able. Oh yea, and thanks for saying I sound mature. I know alot of people that would love to disagree on that. Everyone else out there...please help me out!!!

[newlyorphaned]

Do you have your non-id info? You might want to send for it mine told me that I had an older sibling! My aparents new of his existance as well. I have learned that truth is stranger than fiction when it comes to adoption. Best of luck!

[hprestonalexand]

Send for your non id.
I sent away for my non id about 4 weeks ago, still impatiently waiting for it
Every state (or country-I think) is different.
I was told Oregon was 4-6 weeks, that's who I am waiting on.

Keep posting and see what advice other have to say.

Take care and write again. And you are welcome, you have many friends here on this forum.
I love this place and hope you will come to also

[adopteemellyb]

Ok, I'll try the Non ID thing. Do you know if a minor can (legally) get it??

[adopteemellyb]

Ok, now I just thought up yet another stupid sounding question. Is my birthday, my REAL birthday??? I have an "official" birth certificate, I'm sure it is, but I mean I can't help but wonder all these stupid things, and worse case scenarios. But I'm just rambling on about nonsense stuff. LOL. But like I said I can't help but wonder.

[hprestonalexand]

You know, I am not sure if you have to be 18 or older to request your non id. I didn't even know something like this existed when I was 18

Maybe you can ask around here, or you can also go to the search and reunion section here on the forums and click on the state or country where your adoption was finalized in and look at the laws and rules in regards to non id and other stuff. But now that I think about it, I think you do have to be 18. Your a/parents can request it for you though. I don't know how close you are to them or how supportive they are to you in your search, but ask them. If you are under 18, they can request it for you, try it, I would, can't hurt.

And as far as your birthday goes, I think the date you were told is probably correct. Information is and can still be changed these days. Though today it's not like "the old days" with as many lies and secrets-at least pertaining to your personal or court related adoption papers. That's not to say that they still don't withhold our information or deceitfully or secretly change it. Your non id "should" have your true and correct birth date though. Some info on my amended birth certificate was different than some of the info on my original birth certificate (which I wasn't supposed to have, but through and "angel" received a copy of my OBC). Keep asking around, someone is bound to have info that can help you and answered your questions.

Do you know if your adoption was through an agency or if it was private, through an attorney. I am asking that w/o going back and re-reading your first post.

Take care, write again soon.

p.s. I really feel for you. You remind me of me when I first started searching when I was 17 and it was hard.
Keep writing, keep asking questions. I will help in any way I can!

Take care

[adopteemellyb]

The information I have gathered from my amother is that it was a closed adoption through her doctor, and that's all I know. I get kinda nervous talking about the situation around her, even though I know she's always willing to talk about anything, it still makes me nervous. But I'll try getting more info.

[newlyorphaned]

I think you have to be 18 before you can search. I know birth parents have to wait until we are 18. I had to wait 6 months for my non-id to come in so be prepared to wait and wait and wait! I'm not an attorney but it would seem to me that if your amended birth certificate says you 18 then legally your 18. Good luck!

[Jensboys]

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Jensboys