[scarlet52698]

I'm just curious......

For those who are searching, how old were you when you made the decision to look?

I was 25 yrs. old Found my bmom at 27 yrs.

[icemar]

I was 17 with the support of my Amum, we're still looking, I'm 34 now.

[6boysrus]

37..Was always curious, but never arctively pursued until a few months ago

[kperoc]

I was 41 when I decided to look, and still 41 when I found my birthfamily. Thanks to a wonderful search angel. My Amom encouraged me to start looking.

[stacey walker]

I was 36 when I found out I was adopted, Searched at 37 and found Bmom 1/2 sister and brother.

[dpen6]

I was 28. found her at 29. Still, somewhat ssearching for bfather.

Donna

[Shoshana]

I was 18, I joined ALMA (Adoptees Liberty Movement Association) and attended monthly meetings but didn't begin the actual search until I was 20. I called my birthmother on the phone 3 days later.

I have chosen not to search for my bfather.

[pmgussert]

I was 37. My shrink told me I had "rejection issues" and it may be a good idea to find out why I had been placed for adoption.

[dpen6]

Elizabeth,

If I may, can I ask why you have chosen not to find bfather? I really want to find mine but for many years I pretty much had no interest. I do now only to complete the picture. Don't think I want a relationship. we do possess their genes....as do my children.....

I guess, whats happening is I bounce from yes I want ti find him, to naw, it doesn't really matter. I am not sure I have the energy for the drama of itall???

Donna

[Cheryl62]

I thought about looking many other times, even requested my non-identifying information at around age 38. But I only started looking at age 41, found her (with the help of a PI) a short time later, and made first contact on my 42nd birthday.

[sal]

I was 48 when I finally did it.........had wanted to search all of my life.......held back by fear.... (of what I might find, of hurting my parents, of being rejected)... am in reunion with bmom, siblings, and extended family for almost 4 years now......wish I had done it sooner... I lost one of my newfound brothers last summer... SO glad that I had the chance to know him... I guess I finally realized for me that knowing anything would be better than not knowing........One great thing is that I can finally fill in the blanks on the health forms with correct information and don't ever have to write..........Adopted.......don't know! sal

[shirleyville]

I started searching (tangibly) when I was 11.....going thru my parents lock box late at night, when they were asleep and I could "sneak" the key from it's hiding place.
I dug thru everything I could lay my hands on, trying to find some shread of something that would give me information. I spent my teen years "eaves dropping" and trying to get as much information as I could.
I joined organizations when I was 18, and out of the house at college.
I applied for my non-id info as soon as such an option existed in my state.....
And I hired a state appointed intermediary at 38 -- the minute I knew that option existed.
But to answer your question in a more "intagible" manner....I searched every day, in my heart, from the day I knew what adoption meant.....which was about three or four years of age.
Hugs,
Sally

[mlassi]

Hi,
I was a lot like Sally, I would go through my aparents files and papers hoping for information. I joined ALMA at age 18, and continued to search for 20 years. I finally found this past summer, thanks to someone in my bmother's family posting their information at a genealogy website (not one of the biggies too).
Mary

[tricia3]

Always been curious, but started searching and reunited at the age of 31.

[Weeniebird]

I've been thinking about looking for a long time. Began looking last year at age 40. No luck so far.

2/14/64 - Maine