[Lady-C]

I am an in-family adoptee, my birthmother rejects me. I am still her secret and she will go to her grave with me being her big
secret.
I am also a reunited birthmother. Thankfully I didn't get rejection on both ends.
I think I know a little about birthmother rejection. In my opinion it is mainly fear and shame that they never dealt with.
If, and I know it won't happen, but if my birthmother came to me with her heart open, I would not reject her, she is my mother and I love her.. May or may not make sense to anyone but me.
What I don't know is, what makes an adoptee reject a birthmother?
I don't even know why I want to know, except I am in this
"wonderful"world of adoption and the more I understand, the
better.
Do you know

carol

[SandyL225]

I'm just starting my search the reason,i have felt bitter for 38 years. i thought after having 4 children of my own, how could she give me away? But i found out she was young and just wanted to give me a better life. I feel if she'd try to contact me earlier, i never would have wanted to meet her because of the abandonment I felt inside! But now, i know she was doing what she felt was best for me and I would love to meet my biological family. Hope my opinion helps a little !!
Thanks for listening!
Sandy Long

[Lady-C]

Thank you Sandy. As an in-family adoptee and a
reunited birthmom, well being in-family adoptee you know who your mom is, so it is just different. What I am
getting out of what you have shared is that as you grew older and matured, had your own family, your
understanding of the situation grew. That is very good
and when you reunite with your mother she will so
appreciate that understanding, I wish you well.
Do you know anything at all about the circumstances?
Has anyone led you to believe she was sent to one of those HOMES FOR UNWED MOTHERS? I am asking, as I
have a group of bmoms and adoptess, searching and
reunited all with the common bond of being in or born in
a HOME. If you find out you were and want support
post me privately. luck and hugs to you-Lady C