[toxicat]

Has anyone else's adoptive parents given a child up for adoption? My parents gave a son up before they adopted me and had my brother, and, at 42, he just found us. His reunion was ideal, as everyone was welcoming of him, and although he's not biologically my brother, he's my brother's brother, so, for all intents and purposes, he's mine, too. Or so I assume... Anyway, he hooked me up with his search angel, and she ID'd my bparents's for me. I just sent off a contact letter and hope it's the right Shirley Russ...

[FatBirdy]

That's an interesting story....I am not in the same boat but it's pretty cool! I assume then that your parents are great about you wanting to find your bmom. Wow, I hope you found the right woman.....fingers crossed for you!

I am curious - do you know how your new found adopted out brother feels about his bio parents adopting a child after they gave him away? I think it's cool but I am sure that it adds a few more confusing feelings to an already confusing situation.

Good luck with finding your bmom!!

[toxicat]

I had a feeling growing up that my parents would be offended if I tried to find my bparents. They always put off that vibe. They were in denial about having given up their first child, and my mom had even repressed his birthdate. But recently when their bson found her (my dad's dead), she couldn't be hypocritical. She is a little nervous, though!

[toxicat]

I think it was a blessing for him. His aparents were not chaotic and abusive like mine were. He didn't know any of the circumstances or history until he found us, so he didn't grow up jealous.
When my mom was pregnant with him, my Dad was still with his first wife and wouldn't leave her, so my mom felt that the only choice she had was to give the baby up. Then they got married, but they couldn't conceive, so they adopted me, and my mom immediately got pregnant with my brother. We're 6 months apart.

[toxicat]

Weird thing is, since my bmom and dad (who apparently got married 8 months after they gave me up and never divorced) didn't have any more kids, my search angel thinks they might have also adopted. There are so many other striking similarities between the 2 families that it would almost make sense.

[FatBirdy]

That would be cool if your bparents adopted.....that would be strange and eerie too! What are the chances.....the day you find your bio-parents, if they have an adopted child - that day is the day to go and buy a lotto ticket...and pick the numbers with bdays and anniversaries. hahaha, and split the winnings with me

I will ask you then - how do you feel about being given up by people who later adopted?

[toxicat]

Heehee. The lotto is my life - just not the monetary kind.
I think it's kind of cool, too, like recycling! Everything seems to happen for a reason.

[FatBirdy]

REPRODUCE, reuse and recycle! lol

[toxicat]

Haha!!! But I think I'll leave the reproducing to someone else.