[TIMANDTONYA]

I am the wife of a adoptee born in 1972 and he has a amended birth cert and we have been told that some thing on it have been changed ..who has the right to take that away from my husband ..to change his birthdate or any info on his birth cert

[Dixierae]

Hi,
sorry to hear your husband is having such a hard time.
Iam a bmom who the courts have done the same thing to. They change info one these records and I dont think its right eirther.
They had also told my bdaughter things that were not true about me. I wish you and your husband well with the search for his truth, Hang in there the truth will be found sooner or later,

[TIMANDTONYA]

thank you for the kind reply
its been very hard and how or where do you go from that point where you don't have the correct info of any birth family that may be out there somewhere how will they know your looking for them
if you don't even have the correct info...just not fair or right
but thank you and i wish you al the luck in your searcg
GOD BLESS YOU

[AntKnee]

Every adoptee in a closed adoption has information withheld. That is the whole point of the closed adoption. Whether it is right or wrong, is another story. Adoptees know their amended birth certificate info and bparents are able to obtain the original birth certificate (I believe). But the whole point of it is so neither side can find/know each other.

You can try signing up on the soundex reunion registry and also somewhere within your state.

[TIMANDTONYA]

THE POINT IS THA TIT IS WRONG... TO CHANGE INFO HOW WOULD YOU LIKE TO THINK YOU HAVE A BIRTHDAY WHEN YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW THAT THAT WAS THE DAY YOU WERE BORN IT'S JUST PLAIN WRONG HELLO WAKE UP

[HappyMomAnna]

I completely understand the feeling you must have for the amended birth certificate... Things have changed since the early 70's and while it must deeply hurt, a promise was made to the woman who chose a better life for her child. While it is so hurtful to know something has been changed on the information about who we are---it is also the birthmother's right. If the birthmother wishes to be found, and fill in all the blanks, it is possible but if not who are we to violate something that may have been what was best for her and her situation?.... If she wants to be found she will reach out too... otherswise unless your state has passed laws allowing original birth certificates the search will have to take place without the vital birthcertificate info....
It would have also been difficult for an adopted person to look and see things that invalidated the people who raised him as their own.... Adoption is personal and there are so many reasons. But, your husband would have been upset to see his adoptive parents were not really part of his lifestory on that one peice of paper.... so it can hurt in so many ways. He may be dealing with his adoption story and from my own experience with an adopted husband it is best to be his supporter in whatever way he needs to work past this pain and dissappointment.
I pushed my adopted husband to look and be more worried about the whole thing. I was courious and interested, wanted info for our children, and I was angry at every dead-end...It caused great issues between us, I made his life an issue he was not ready to deal with and it lead to problems.
On the other hand if he is the one who needs to fill in his own blanks he needs your educated and compassionate support, getting real angry might be counter productive for him... be there with him and let him lead his own search, let him take it all in his own time and be the wind beneath his wings not the storm behind the destruction... Adoptees face this situation in many ways and the way we as their spouse respond is what we would do if we were the adoptee... give him a hug and back up his choice and learn to cope with the adoption issue for yourself.... If you have children they will also develope their own ideas, and negative or positive feelings about adoption may come from your reactions...
Bless you and walcome to Adoption, as a wife you have now been touched by adoption.

[daisie2007]

Hello, would you mind saying where he was born. Thank you

[AntKnee]

Did I ever say it was right???

On another note, how do you know that things have been changed? Do you know that his birthdate has been changed? Or is it just the case (like me) that things have been ommitted?

What I am saying is that all adoptees in a closed adoption have (at least) the doctor's name and the birthparents names ommitted on their "amended" birthcertificates. That is so you cannot go out and search for them.

[daisie2007]

Please could you say what month the amended BC says he was born, or what state. Thankyou.

[WonderBlonde]

I am sorry to hear about the BC, I had no idea that could happen until this very moment. I am in search of a brother myself. He was born on 1/12/72 in Spokane,WA; and adopted in the beginning of 1976. He should have recieved an inheirtance at the age of 18. If any of this is familiar to you, I may be related. Best of luck in your search.

[lisasmom2]

To those of you who believe the misinformation is because the birthmothers chose "not to fill in the blanks", let me tell my experience. I am a reunited birthmother who at the time of the adoption was promised if I called the agency when my daughter was 18, they would give me her info. At 17, eighteen years sounded like a life time but on her birthday I called the agency and found out that lie. I found my daughter on one of these sites and her non-identifying info about me was unbelievable. I filled out the forms (I filled in ALL the blanks) telling them my heritage. I am of English descent. They told her I came to N.Y from England to have her and immediately returned to England after her birth. I have never been to England! The agency knew I was born and raised in Brooklyn N.Y. I told them the birthfather was 18, in the Navy and his hobbies were art and music. Her non-id said that her BF was an Art Professor in a N.Y. college. Obviously they didn't tell her his age. 2 years ago her mom convinced her to put the info on line because the internet was international and maybe I'd see it over in Merry Ole England. To the agency's credit, they didn't change her date of birth, hospital or time and weight at birth. We have a wonderful relationship and her parents are the most terrific people in the world. My prayers were answered but it still angers me that the agency lied as much as they did.
Thanks for letting me vent
Hugs
Susan

[TIMANDTONYA]

was born in Panama City Florida in Bay County
weighted 8 pounds and was given the name chris trivett
while he was in a foster home

[TIMANDTONYA]

was born Febuary 11,1972

[WonderBlonde]

Thank you for your reply, and unless they changed your birth place you are not my brother...darn . I will keep trying and you too. Again, thank you.

[Jackiejdajda]

lisasmom wrote I am of English descent. They told her I came to N.Y from England to have her and immediately returned to England after her birth. I have never been to England!

They told my bson I was Irish.. I am not Irish..

To the original poster.. I was told that some Florida agencies did change the date of birth.
A horrible thing to do..


Jackie