[MANoICE]

As some of you may know, I had sent contact letters to both bparents about 3 months ago. I have been in regular contact with Bdad since that time and things are going pretty good. Everytime I talk to him he asks if I have heard from my bmom. I have not. He believes that from the information I have that I have contacted the correct person.

Well, when I talk to him the past weekend he asked me for her phone number, which I have. He wanted to call her and see if he could get her to talk to him about it and see why she hasn't tried to make any contact. Amazing! He hasn't seen hide nor hair of her for probablyt 28 years and he just volunteered to step in and make the call for me. He said the he would tell her that i wasn't made and didn't hold any grudges, but I just wanted to know about her. He would also tell hear about my family and let her know that if she desired no contact from me, that I would no longer bother her family. Saves me from having to find the word to put in another letter that i was going to write to her to let her know that I understood that she may not want any contact and that I would let her be, if she so desired. I have been working on a draft of this letter for about 2 weeks and was still trying to get out a touch of bitterness I had realized I had put into the letter.

On a side note, I may get to meet him in person soon. He came into a bit of money recently and is planning on possibly coming out this way. I plan on making it someplace neutral, so there is no home town advantage. But, still someplace close to me bacuse I am BROKE!! he he

[sweetnoodle]

Wow. Thanks for the update!

Sincerely,

[shirleyville]

That's amazing!
SO....has he called her yet?
Keep us posted!
Hugs,
Sally

[MANoICE]

I haven't heard anything yet. Bdad did call on my birthday, but I missed the call. I haven't called him back yet. You'll all know right after I do.

pete

[StarryNight™]

Pete, well least you have someone who will step in like that. You have to give that man credit ! I think it's wonderful you might get to meet him. I have met mine and he seems pretty cool. We are not close by anymeans. But just the fact we are friends is enough for me. I wish you the very best with this. I personally am holding my breath having just recently met with my aunt and 1st cousin on birthmom's side. They were great. May you have a wonderful reunion, as for your birthmom. Just wait to see what happens. I know it's tough during that wait. I personally am writing for the first time to my birthmom. I will be on pins and needles waiting to see or hear a response. Hugs to you!

That's great! I can imagine how hard it is to write that second letter. I'm really glad your bfather is there for you.

[MANoICE]

Well, I spoke with Duane (my bdad) this weekend and asked him about calling bmom. He said he had called her the same day that we had last spoken. She was not home and he left her a message. He also said it was just an automated answering machine, so he didn't get to even confirm if it was her voice. Although, it may have been even a bigger shock for her to hear his voice after nearly 30 years. All he said was "Nannette, this is Duane. Call me at ....." She is probably in a comma. After hearing from me in a letter and now getting a call from her high school boyfriend, I can't even imagine. Other than that, not much new news. Although, it looks as though Duane and his family will be making plans to fly out here to Sacramento. Not sure when yet, but they asked for me to gather some tourist info for them. So, we'll see how that goes.

[snuffie]

I am so excited for you. It is so nice that your bdad will get to visit you soon. I would give anything to know mine. But at this point I don't think that will ever happen.

As for your bmom - Maybe she just needs some time to get over the "shock" of hearing from you and your bdad. Bmoms were told to forget and to get on with their lives. Some have buried their feelings more than others. Mine had buried her feelings but they came out in other ways. Sadly, she passed away before I contacted her the second time. The first time I had contacted her there were things going on in her life and I would have ruined everything at that time by showing up. So there may be circumstances in her life right now that prevent her from answering you and your bdad.

I wish you the best in your relationship with your bdad and his family.

Hugs

Snuffie