[colin]

Things have been a little overwhelming the past couple of days. I Have so much on the go.

I have just reunited with my bMOM, b1/2Brother,and found out i have a b1/2 sister too.

I am 1/2 Ukranian, 1/4 scottish, 1/4 irish, zero % hungarian.

I am wanting to buy a windsurfer to put in the ocean a couple blocks away, yet i have windsurfed only once but want to learn for real before i get too old to try. This is for me, for exercise, fun, diversion, health, spirit and friends.

I have to apply for membership in the Special Effects Department of the International Association of Theatrical and Stage Workers. I have completed the required permit days now i just have to accomplish the mountain of papework and update my courses. This is for money, fun and fufillment of a dream.

I have got to bring my Afamily up to date on the recent events and create time to dedicate to our relationships. The recent reunion has knocked a few things off balance for a bit.

I have even signed my non-geek mother up for an account here so she can get support from other AMoms during this time.

I need to continue to pour love and affection on my Fiancee, she is hungarian that's why the joke about 0% hungarian. Our relationship, and selves have improoved so much over the past year and i really hope for the best.

I have also got to take time for the relationship i have with myself. It is a bit of a shocker having all this going on.

The reason i share all this is to establish that, yes i am overwhelmed and sensitive. If i watch a sad movie and want to cry I do not analyse what the actors said to find the reasons I cry, i look inside me.

Can we leave the terminology talk aside unless there are more poets out there like "When my birth mother loved me so much she wanted to give me a life that she was unable to give to me at the time." Monica

This was to be a thread about feelings. To explain further if i can do it any justice. My bMom and I were influenced by Human-Made biological, social and economic conditions of Winnepeg, Manitoba, Canada in the late 1960's.

Yes things were different then, i think most of us have caught on to this fact. But things were different up the block where mothers were able to keep their children.

What has society learned since then to help the mothers of today keep their young?? Are there industries set up which accomodate bMoms who want to keep their young, work to their ability, and survive together?. Or does society still shun them? As one question gets answered i get three more.

See how quickly i get off-topic and messed up. It aint fair and who's looking into the network of it all to guide it's better development.

Is it fair that Moms from Guatemala get to loose thier children to richer nations?

Ya see, I cannot solve the big picture and it bursts my brain to try any more. I have collapsed into the train of thought --- to perhaps just try to take care of myself. That is why i began to study counselling at a local college. To get qualified to get inside my own head.

I have faith in the process of validation. To me it is simply the act of hearing and accepting what the previous person has said about their own experience to be true to them. It is not problem solving, it is not pointing out other things, it is not ignoring, it is not diverting the conversation. This is one of the counsellors and counsellies powerful friends.

The validated one has a brain that can then, at lightning speed finally hear someone else hearing them and continue with regular function to dig deeper into the issue they wish to safely bring to light. It is to know another human, after many years has finally communed with the same idea or thought and it then really, truely exists.

I am no expert of the mind yet i know this about my own.

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I was in a very vulnerable situation when i last heard the term. I then experienced an uncomfortable feeling which spread from my mind and to my body. I am dirven to analyse most of my uncomfortable feelings to disburse them. And when i feel physiological reactions with feelings, I know it is worth the time to investigate.

I thank you all for your efforts and sharing. Yet i am left as perplexed as as i had begun -- with three more questions for every one answered.

Does this overwhelmed feeling ever dissolve? Is it a part of being human? Is it abnormal or can i feel at home with the rest of population in this struggle?

[Carol Bird]

Seems to me you have a pretty full plate right now. Why not step back, take a deep breath, maybe two or more, and set some priorities.

I wish you luck in your reunion and peace....
Hugs, Carol