[MANoICE]

I got "the call" last night. On Monday I had sent out a letter to both of my birth parents. Well, last night my bfather called me. I knew it was him when I saw the number on my caller ID and I was scared to answer it. My wife made me. lol

It went pretty well, even for being an awkward phone call 30 years in the making. He told me there had not been a day since I was born that he had not wondered what had happened to me. Even though my bparents were only 15 & 16 at the time, they were together for 3 or 4 years total. I apparently came somewhere in the middle of all this.

He is married and has a son (18) and a daughter (17.) The crazy thing is: They all already knew that I existed. He was really open about everything with his wife and kids. He has told them since they were little that they had a brother out there somewhere. So, the whole family is excited. I only got to talk to him and his wife, but I got their email so I can send them some pics.

Overall, a great first contact. There were times of conversation lull and some uncofortable moments (like when he said "we'd love to see you in person.") That was a little too fast for me. I just kind of let that one blow pass for now. I am still not sure what kind of relationship I am looking for, but at least he seems like the kind of guy I can talk to without much uncomfortability.

We had a lot of similarities. It was kind of crazy. He asked me about my hairline which has been retreating faster than the french (sorry cheap shot.)We both married our wives after only 6 months of dating. And we both found out we were pregnant shortly before we got married. We even have fairly similar voices.

Hopefully bmom will wait a while before she calls. I am still dazed about all of this. It has happened so fast that I don't know what to do. But I must say, I am glad I found this forum, it has been a great help. And as a reward, you are the second people to know about my contact (after my wife of course.) I just had to come here first and share the news. Thanks to all of you.

p.s. I know my posts always have few to many typos. I am a victim of the spell check syndrome. Sorry if it makes me hard to read.

[radiodoll]

YIPPIE!!!!!!!!!!

YIKES!!!!!!!!!

WOOOHOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!


I am so happy for you! Who wouldda thunk he'd be waiting for you? WOW.

I can imagine all of the overwhelming feelings. Roll with it!

Keep up updated! I celebrate for YOU tonight!!!!!


Radiodoll

[patrisha]

Congradulations!

As a birth mom I know I wanted to see my son asap too. I think it has to do making it real (we birth parents do alot of dreaming about seeing our children again). We ended up waiting about 6 months for our first visit.

The fact both your siblings (sound funny?) already knew about you is great. It speaks volumes about your bdad's feelings about you.

Hope all goes as well with your bmom. You might ask him if they kept in touch, and if so, what her reaction might be.

Good Luck!
Trish

[MANoICE]

patrisha,

We did talk about her a little. He had heard a story about her having married a guy from their town (where she still lives) and that they both brought kids into the marriage. Then he supposedly died a few years after, leaving her with 4 or 5 kids. That doesn't seem to mesh with what i have on her, but who knows. When i was doing a court record search for her it appeared that she had gotten divorced in 2000 from her husband, but they still share the same address, so I don't know. My bdad still has a lot of family in that town and i told him her married name, so he may have them do some checking. If she does not contact me in the next 4-6 weeks, I may ask him to contact her (via phone or family) and see if she is still dealing or just doesn't want contact.

CRAZY!!!!

[vicrose]

Congratulations!!!! I'm soooo excited for you!!!! I wish you many happy years ahead with your birthdad!!!!!! Sincerely, Brenda....

[dl]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Sounds like a great beginning. It's heartwarming to hear that he thought about you every day and was so open with his wife and other kids. To often I think the feelings of the bfather are minimized. How far apart do the two of you live?

Sincerely hope things go well for you.

[sam_i_am_71801]

yyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhoooooo oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.... ....yippppeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee... .................congradulations! Have fun! Keep us informed please

[debsdone]

Great new, good luck! Read the post by Iwonderyou. Her last line is very powerful. I needed to read it before my face to face in a few weeks! LOL Love, Debi

http://www.adoptionforums.com/showth...hreadid=107591

[MANoICE]

That you all for the kind words. I believe that I have been extreemly lucky in my search so far. I hope things continue to go smoothly. I wish you all the same luck with your searches and reunions.

[Dragonfly82]

CONGRATULATIONS MANOICE!!!!!!!!!!



Saying a prayer for your strength, courage and happiness!

Keep us posted! Take care!

[snuffie]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

I AM SOO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!

BE GOOD TO YOURSELF AND TAKE SOME TIME IN BETWEEN CALLS ETC. TO JUST LET THINGS "SINK " IN!

kEEP UP POSTED!

[shirleyville]

ManoIce...
Congratulations!!!
Doin' the Snoopy Dance for you and your family!!
I, too, am touched to hear all of this, since it is a son and his father reuniting! It seems like you hardly ever hear about birthfathers who not only are receptive to reunion, but have been so open and honest with their families! It says a lot about your bdad! I want to hug him myself for his integrity and openness!
It also makes me wish I had some way to know who my own birthdad is. My birthmom is the only one who holds the key to that, and she won't tell. She wants no contact with me, and the birthfamily members that I do have contact with, have no idea who he is.
I sort of always thought he wouldn't care.....or that he doesn't even know I exist -- but maybe he would, afterall?
PLEASE keep us posted, and keep sharing! You are helping so many other people....you have no idea!
Giant Hugs of Congratulations!
Sally

[bajohnson]

I'll add my voice to the cacaphony of yipee's out there. Great start. Validation and the knowledge that he never "forgot" about you. I too applaud his honesty. Go slow, you are and enjoy this. Thank you for sharing your search and story with us. It's always encouraging for those of us still searching to hear about reunions like this.
God bless,
Beth

That's great! I hope that your reunion continues to go this well.

[tlee70]

Oh my goodness! I don't come to this site for a few days and look what happens!!!!
I am so happy for you MANoICE! It's sounds like your birthfather has been waiting for you to contact him.
Try to take things at your own pace and don't feel pressured into doing anything your not ready for. I would highly suggest you do some reading on reunion (if you haven't already) because the ride is VERY overwhelming! Knowledge is power, the more knowledge you have on all members of the triad, the easier the ride will be (hopefully) lol.
Again, Congrats! I'm glad you didn't have to wait too long for a response
As you know, I'm currently in reunion with my birthfather as well, so if you ever want to chat just let me know

Take care
Tlee