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Originally Posted By Kim Huston

I entered this before and haven't received any answers and
now my message dropped off the board. My situation is pretty
unique in the stage I am at right now and I could really use
some advice!! I am an adoptee who has searched and found my
bmom. My problem is finding my b-father. My bmom said she
doesn't remember much and won't keep contact with me. She
gave me his first name and the name of the band he was in in
1968.
> They were living in Dallas, TX at the time of my birth but
he doesn't know about me. She told no one, not even her
family. Texas law is very similar to Minnesota, where I have
lived since I was adopted. I have received all of the legal
documents of my adoption thanks to Judge Gaither but
unfortunately my mother didn't put down my fathers name on
anything and it was not required for him to consent to the
adoption back in '68. I have spoken to the adoption agency
and found out that they have his name (full name) on their
records. They only way they will release it to me is through a
> friendly suit. I am a single parent and cannot afford an
attourney in Dallas and court fees right now. It starts at
about $450. I have even tried to visit them unexpectedly but
had no luck. What can I do?? They said they won't even give
him a letter from me because he is only on their records and
is not listed as the legal father. Do you have any ideas???
Thanks in advance.
>
> Kim H

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Originally Posted By Lara

Kim

I am a 30 year old adoptee. I found my birthmother two years ago and she gave me the name of my birthfather (who didn't know that I existed). It took me another year to feel ready to contact him and I did. I'm glad to have finally put all my pieces together.

It makes me so mad to hear about agencies that have all the information that would complete your life right there in front of them, but policy prohibits them from giving it to you. Doesn't it make you want to smash them?!

I'm sorry that I don't have any advice for you; but I hope everything works out for you, and that you can put all your pieces together! Good luck and don't give up!

Lara

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Originally Posted By Kim

Dana,

Thanks for your post. I agree they are jerks and to make it worse I even drove from Minnesota all the way down to Dallas to try to get some answers from them. I was hoping that they might be simpathetic to me and help but the just throw the rules and regulations at me and told me I should've called first, then they could've just told me they couldn't help me right over the phone!! What's really dumb, I think, is that he isn't even proven to be my father and they didn't believe my mom because she said he was black and THEY thought I was too white to be half black. Keep in mind, it was Texas in the 60's!!!! If they don't think he's my father then WHY protect him????

Marcy, do you have any ideas about this at all? Any legal advice would be great.

Thanks to you both,

Kim H

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I wonder if you might have some success contacting the Dallas newspaper... the Dallas Morning News... for leads. If the band was at all well known they might have some mention of it in the archives. Also I think I saw in one of your later posts that he was black... if you tell them that at the newspaper they might have some ideas about contacts in the African American community that could help you.

Good Luck!

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If indead your mother has given you any information regarding your birth father, you should contact the agency that handled your adoption and supply them with the identifying information you have in regards to both birth parents. They will have to disclose it as it no longer considered private information and you will be allowed access to this information. Good luck.

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Originally Posted By laurie brown

I was adopted by my "real" dad as toddler when he married my mom. Although I understand her reasons, she will not give any info on bfather.

Only looking for info for health reasons.

I do not wish to meet or disrupt his life or mine. Only need

this information. Especially since I have two children of my own.

Any help at all would be appreciated.

I know that he is from the balto. area and has or had family here.

I know that his name is Lawrence Theodore Knox from my baby book.

I was born to Adelsia P. Miles on January 16, 1964, at Bon Secour Hospital @ 6:30 a.m.

Again this is not to be united or reunited with him or his family, I only wish for information regarding health history.

Sincerely,

Ms. Laurie Brown