[Jesse21]

My name is Jessica and I need some help. Can any one help me? Here is my delema. My boyfriend (Kenny) and I are planning on getting married once both of us are done with school. I'm pregnant (due Nov. 14, 2003) by my ex (Ryan). Me and my current boyfriend got together when I was about 4-5 months along. And Kenny wants to adopt my son as his own when we do get married. But someone told him that he cannot adopt without Ryans permission. And these two hate each other. And I know that Ryan will NEVER give permission. Is their anyway around this? Like Ryan has no say if he has no custody what-so-ever, and he's a known coke-head (along with other various drugs)? I would REALLY appreciate it if someone could give me some information on this. PLEASE!?!?

[Teresa K]

Another who will probably not help the baby at all, but out of spite will not let another adopt the child. When the baby is born he will be given an opportunity to sign the birth certificate, if he realizes that makes him responsible to support the baby he may refuse. If he does immediately file support papers. Even if he does not sign the birth certificate you can file for child support, he can then ask for DNA at his expense. This does not sound like a real responsible person, if he has no contact for six months to a year, it varies by state a Judge will often terminate his rights based on abandonment. If he is offering no support now it will not look good for him later. The best thing to do is check step parent adoption and abandonment laws in your state as they do vary widely. Good Luck and Congrads Teresa