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My husband has been asked so many rude questions about the adoption. It seems that hardly anyone can believe that a man can love a child that he didn't biologically father. The worst question that he was asked was if both children were going to die and you could only save one which one would you save? I think that is the absolute worst question you can ask a parent. There is no way to choose. I saw in the Tsunami coverage that this happened to a parent. Both children ended up living but I would never want to be in that situation. I think if you can answer that question you should stop parenting right now.
In response to the post about you took the easy way out with adoption. I have to say that I have two children. I found out I was pregnant with my son on Saturday. The Tuesday after that my Daughter was born. Her adoption finalization didn't happen till she was 15 months old. I personally feel that her adoption was harder. When I was pregnant with my son I knew where he was at all times. I never had to worry about it and hope that he was safe. With my daughter I knew about her since her mother was four months along. It was the absolute most stressful time of my life. I would get a call that said oh bmother was beat up again and is in the hospital. The worst call I got was that the doctor had told bmom to abort her since her heart was too small. I just cried thinking that there was nothing I could do to help her. I researched heart transplants and everything. I was then told a few days later that her mother hadn't gone through with the abortion. It went on and on. Her mother was always drinking and getting into fights. I am not usually an emotional person but I cried alot through this. I had to wait for 15 months after her birth hoping that she would be mine. I am not going to say that my own pregnancy was easy. My pubic bone felt like it was going to split for months. I had an excruciating 30 hour labor. For anyone to say that I got either of my children the easy way they must be insane. I love my children with every bit of my being. I get asked the questions alot since my children look very much alike. I was asked if they were twins since my son was about 6 weeks old and my daughter was 9 months old. She is very tiny and he grew very fast. I usually say that she is adopted and he is the surprise. We thought we were unable to have children after 8 years of marriage no protection and no kids. I was on Clomid a few times and had one miscarriage on it. Sorry for the long post.
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