[sugarbabysmommy]

It's all in the delivery I guess, telling someone they are being a bummer- I did not say bum which is an insult. I understood that he made his comments in the light joking manner you described, that's why I suggested the come back that I did. I have told friends that certain comments, even jokes can be a bummer. That's why I asked if he was a good friend, since I would never say this to a casual person but to a person who knew me well and understood my tone.

I agree, it's the well intentioned folks or the folks who are joking around that I also find hard to deal with. Sometimes there is no avoiding it, seeming to be oversensitive, because no matter how hard you try to moderate your voice or make light of things said, your feelings of "enough already" come through. This is where simply walking away can come in handy.