[LisaCA]

I think we all think and say catty things about each other. Heck, I giggled when I read the comment about the "don't they know where those come from?" The key difference is that you didn't say that to her face. For me that's key. Folks can think or say whatever they want, just don't think it's funny to say to me. This is where tact comes into play .

I have to say that I'm sure the lack of pregnancy is one of the things that I find attractive about adoption. Certainly not the only thing, or the main thing, nor does it compensate for the invasion of privacy or the mounds of paperwork that never end. I personally find pregancy akin to the movie Alien, a living thing consuming your insides -of course, that's an unpopular view of pregnancy (and good thing too, since the species would die out rapidly).

He must really be wishing to talk about something, since it's burning a hole in his pocket. maybe a discussion about your reproductive organs and how they actually function (something graphic to discourage him from the discussion again) will be useful. Or maybe a discussion of how, if you were infertile, this would be hard to hear repeatedly... or maybe just a whack on the head next time he says something. Or maybe just say "look, most people can have a child, but only a few are able to adopt!" that should leave him wondering...

Lisa