[Kymom2b]

Curvy,

Sorry you are having to deal with this guy. In general, I think most people just don't "get" adoption. From my own experiences, it seems that most people are more ignorant than anything else. I've also put a few people in the category of being "chronically mean"!!! We have had mixed reactions when telling people that we are going to adopt and unfortunately, more reactions are bad than good. Even though most of the people around us know that we have been TTC for six long years, they still continually say "You all are so young, you should try a little longer before adopting" or " Are you sure you can't get pregnant?" I want to scream at the top of my lungs "HELLO PEOPLE!!! A LITTLE SUPPORT WOULD BE NICE HERE!!!!

Then of course there's the old "At least you won't have to go through child birth!" Now I know that I haven't had a full-term pregnancy, but from what I can tell neither adoption or birth is a walk in the park. So, I guess you can say I don't fully understand the meaning of that comment, but it's frustrating just the same!

I have a co-worker who kept asking me every day if we had gotten "the call". For the first few days I was touched that he was concerned, then I started getting angry. I finally had to explain to him that while I appreciated his concern, being reminded everyday that we hadn't received any news was upsetting. He hasn't said a word since.

Good luck