[waiting home]

Our 14-year-old foster daughter has been with us since July without any problems (honeymoon).

All of a sudden things have gone (to you know where) in a handbasket.

Grades, homework, cutting classes, mouthy, challeging everything we say, hiding in the bedroom and accusing us of putting down her bio family.

Truth of the matter is, no one has been coming out to visit her, she's angry and we are getting the brunt of her frustration. This I all understand.

In talking with her last night, she tells me that she had requested (before placement with us) to be put in a group home. That if she cannot be with her own family, she doesn't want to be part of anyone else's family. She want's us to request group home again with her caseworker.

I really do understand that at this stage in their life, this enviroment might be better suited for their needs than a foster home. But we cannot make the decision and the caseworker (who is never available by the way, and annoyed when we call) does not want to entertain our fd's wishes.

Any one been here. I know it is testing us and she is probably freaking out because she might possibly be starting to feel some attachment for us. But in the mean time she is driving us insane and turning the house upside down.

Any advice?

She most definitely does not trust adults. We are at our wits end with the complete turn around.