[LisaCA]

my husband had a harder issue with the openness thing than i did initially, but he's come on board and is thrilled ours is open. I would just suggest to the bfamily that you skip the agency send stuff directly to each other. We did that. Ours was to be open, but during our first call we gave them all our info including email addresses, cell phones and the like, just to let them know they could always reach us. Since then I've given them family info in case of emergency (like my sister's info) just in case there was an earthquake here and they couldn't reach us but could reach my sister.

ours is definitely one of the best case scenarios. the family is stable, middle class values (so we share many of the same experiences and outlook), no drug or other issues involved. If we met tomorrow, we'd instantly like each other, so there's little "work" involved with staying in touch.

sometimes dhs are harder to convince, but if you're a good wife you know how to convince him . For dh, the issue was time to get used to an idea. He's very precise, not one for surprises and instant change. So I present an idea, let it sit, then talk about it again, present a bit more info each time, then back off, then again, etc, til he caves. Sometimes it takes two years, but i always win . The open adoption thing actually took only a few months, but once he talked to them and realized he had a connection, poof, we were giving out our info. Btw, bfamily had reservations initially too, but after a week, poof, we were exchanging all sorts of private stuff . I think it's normal for dh to show some concern, but I've rarely heard about things going the way of a lifetime channel movie .

good luck! I think it's a great idea.

Lisa