Ours is open
Hi Max,
Ours is an open adoption with Addy's bmom in that she knows our number and our address. We still haven't visited due to all her crises since Addy's birth but we still plan to.
Ours is far from ideal and I still am glad it is what it is. We have had to set limits and be strong when bmom behaves inappropriately but she truly loves Addy and we love her dearly.
I don't know all the circumstances but the geographical distance means that the chances that she'll drop by unannounced are slim so probably not a worry.
Like I said, even though we don't have the perfect open adoption, I think that sharing information shows that you plan to continue your relationship and that there is trust. She is probably experiencing the same fears you are about losing touch. I'd say go for it. the book "How to open an adoption" is very helpful.
Good Luck,
Martha
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