[BrandyHagz]

In my opinion, a lot depends on the relationship you have with her. If you consider her a friend, then the fact that she is the birthmother of your child shouldn’t really be an issue.

In 1999, I got a call from a good friend; she was in trouble and needed my help. She and her family had been on mission work overseas and came back to find out that the person who was responsible for managing their finances while they were away had done a fine job of screwing up everything. As a result, they had to hastily sell their home while they decided what they would do next. During this time, they needed a place to stay and I readily offered them a place to call home while they straightened everything out.

They were there for a while, not a long time – a month or so.

What makes my story different from yours but slightly similar is that the friend that called me was my daughter’s adoptive mom.

I’m not sure what it is about adoptive parent/birth parent relationships that make things so difficult when a birth parent reaches out. I gladly offered my hand to them when they were in need, and I know without a single doubt whatsoever that they would do the same for me…that’s what friends do; and while we are permanently connected via adoption, we don’t let that complicate the relationship we’ve worked to build since M’s placement.

I wish you luck with whatever you decide to do…