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Not at all.

Consider that many expectant parents making an adoption plan are themselves working, and that many have been raised by parents who both worked. Or the opposite. That may be important to them - that both parents work. They may themselves reject the idea of the 'traditional' single income SAHM family as not what they want for their child.

For us, we were both working, with the plan that DH would be a SAHD when he retired from the military - 1 year after Ryan came. As the day he retired got closer though, he got more and more uncomfortable with the plan. He'd never not worked, and was worried that he'd send our son the wrong 'message' about working.

So he decided to get a job. We were really worried about how Ryans' bfamily would react when we told them our plans had changed. They just laughed and said "we never really did believe he could stay home. It's just not in him. You're working people, just like us."

Understand this: For every aspect of your situation, I promise there is someone out there looking for someone 'just like you' to parent their child. There is no one 'ideal' universal adoptive parent.

Hang in there.

Regina