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The adoption of my 9 yr old daughter will be finalized next month (yippee!).
She wants a sister or brother and I had originally intended to adopt twice, but for a long time after getting my little Miss Defiance I decided two was unthinkable. But this year she has become much more mellow and so we plan after the finalization to inform the social worker that we are interested in becoming a family of three. I am still wobbling a bit back and forth on the idea, because whenever my daughter has a friend over her defiance gets much worse, especially with one of her friends who is also defiant.
I don't know if a younger sister (unless we move to a bigger house before we get matched, in which case it might be a younger brother) will be too much of a competitor for them to join forces against me or not. I expect when I get a second child I will have to start a thread begging for ways to handle two kids.
What I'm looking for in a child is no dirt or animal allergies (live on a farmette with horses, chickens, ducks, geese, dog, cats, and lots of dirt, dust, hay), kind to animals, kind to people (particularly mothers), physically and mentally "able". I'd like to find a late 6 yr old or early 7 yr old (1st grader). And they absolutely must be cautious, there are too many dangerous things around to have a child who takes intentional risks.
I thought it would be hard to find that kind of child, but both the fds I've had fit the description, and although the foster son I had for a week actually expected to be allowed to climb up the tree to the treehouse (too risky in my aging opinion) I think he was basically a safety conscious child (tho I'm sure he would have forced me to expand my boundaries of acceptable risks).
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