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Old 09-13-2005, 12:23 PM
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Originally Posted by hollywoodlisa
Also, we would like to adopt a child with lighter skin color and less indian features, is that possible?

Thanks,
Lisa


You need to ask yourself several questions here.

Babies in Guatemala are often referred at several days/weeks old, and we all know how much babies change, and quick!

Your infant referred can be fair even. Your 4 week update pictures can show a much darker child. How would you address your feelings on this? And as they grow, they can "darken" up. Again, how would you feel about this, this child you adopted, who did not meet your initial wants.
Indian features are prevalant in Guatemalan children because of the rich Mayan culture that still exists in this country. This may not be noticable as an infant or even a young child. As they grow - again - you need to address this questions.

No, it is not wrong for you to want a child to 'fit' a certain description, as you would want your partner... but this is international adoption in a multicultural fashion here, and you also need to address that - welcoming the culture.

Just make sure you ask and honestly answer the necessary questions to yourself before you bring any child with a multicultural background into your home. That is something we ALL do.
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