[cr653]

interesting thread.
i did it the other way.
had my bios first then choose to pursue adoption.
my pregnancies are pretty awful (though not necessarily dangerous), my thyroid stops working my blood pressure pitches a fit, etc...
but,
that set aside,
i HAVE ALWAYS wanted to adopt a child, i think i first assumed it would be through the foster system as i had a number of friends who were part of that system when i was a teenager (lost of foster families at my church).
anyhow,
about a year or 2 ago, before we had a referral, i truely thought i might be pregnant. all i could envision was months of pain, headaches, thyroid issues, and while i had a toddler and an infant! dh thought it was kind of funny and even mentioned "my 3 sons!" thinking surely any bios we had would be another boy!
Meanwhile, i just cried my head off knowing if we added to our family a 3rd time that was it, and as we did not yet have a referral, that would be the end of our adoption process.
i cried for like 3 weeks, didnt go out, or answer my phone, and then whalaa...it was not a pregnancy. AND we could continue our path towards adoption!

I know this is not the usual way of look at things, but i just thought i'd through that into the mix.
in spite of my rough and bittersweet adoption path, i find this a really neat and miraculous way to add to my family.
I feel really blessed to have been able to add kids to our family both biologically and through adoption and i know both ways bring out in me the same "mommy love"! as im sure all of you also know.
for those of you contemplateing pregnancy i wish you blessings in your decisions, for those of you broken hearted by not having a biological child at this point, my heart and prayers go out to you, as i cant imagine how you must feel at times.

what a neat topic.
to see what various dreams, heartaches, and other paths bring us all to this special wonderful way of bringing our children home: adoption!

lets hear more "paths" that lead to this adoption decision!

sorry if i got a little off topic, but this is near and dear to my heart, as it is to all of yours!

cris...who LOVES the topic of adoption, and the joy it has brought to our family!