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I think a lot of people have taht hope of the old myth, "once you adopt you'll get pregnant" in the back of their mind and hoping its true. I do not thnk by thinking taht its a condemnation of adoption or a way of looking at adoption as a second choice but you hear the myth so often, it leaves a niggle of hope and most would want to have the bio baby and the adopted baby if they could. Because you become emotionally vested in both.
I am also one of those people who keep the myth alive. Twice I started an adoption, and both times wondering is I would get pregnant was in the back of my mind. With the first adoption I got pregnant after multiple miscarriages, drugs galore and had my miracle baby. Adoption agency would not let us pursue adoption until a year after baby born. Plus I has high risk and the emotional stress would have been too much for me (wiorrying about the viability of the pregnany and the viability of the adoption) Second time for adoption (this one) after 4 iuis, 1 ivf, drugs galore I got pregnant taking no drugs and at peace with my infertility and it was a uterine etopic pregnancy requiring emergency surgery with complications. This time, I made sure there was no
prohibition about being pregnant and adopting when I chose my agency, just in case.
So no - I do not think you are alone, I just do not think most will admit it.
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